I’ve been with my DP for 3 years. When we first got together I found out he was having some therapy for a few bad experiences in his life. However, we were having a wonderful time at the start of our relationship and I didn’t really see it as an issue.
Gradually over time his mood has deteriorated significantly. I accept people have mental health problems. Most of us do at some point in life. I do also think it’s good that he isn’t afraid to ask for help. BUT nothing ever improves.
He’s moody most days and quite unpleasant to be around. His moods suck the life and positivity out of me. He constantly moans about every single aspect of life. He gets worked up about the smallest of issues. He appears like he has a massive chip on his shoulder.
It’s draining me. Whenever I speak to him about it he just cries and blames it on what’s happened in the past. He promises it will get better but it never does. He’s angry at everything and everybody. I’m on eggshells around him.
Would it be harsh to leave over these issues? He admits to having mental health problems and I have supported him since we got together but I feel like it’s costing me my own happiness now. It feels wrong to leave someone who probably needs the support, but I don’t feel like my feelings are a priority to him at all. If anything he tries to blame me a lot of the time.
He actually has a lot to be happy about. A good job, nice home, nice car, good friends. But he has suggested he would feel like killing himself if I was to leave him.