Scared

[newlysingle1]

Hi I am 49 and newly single two young children ... I look around 40 due to Botox etc and looking after myself ... I have a fear of getting old and wrinkly which having therapy for... menopausal so sex drive off the scale but I am petrified of dating again .. I just don't fancy men my age and fancy younger men around 10 years younger .. is this normal .. I don't feel my age nor act it .. sorry if a bit jumbled just want reassurance about dating again and who would want a nearly 50 year old with 2 kids

I would say go with what you like, why not? Approach men of this age and see 🙂

To be honest I have been approached by 22-32 years old I know only for one thing but still flattering I just am scared of being on my own for ever

How different we all are… I’m in my early 50’s and often get approached by younger men, late 20’s, early 30’s and find it really unsettling! Certainly not what I’m looking for in a partner, find it very unappealing when i’m almost old enough to their Mum, but if you and they are happy with it, why not!

I'm 54 soon and have been dating a 44 yr old for a couple of months. He's got youngish kids so we can't see each other more than every other weekend. I'm busy too so it's perfect! Every guy I've been out with over the last 5 months of OLD has been less interested in my age than the fact that I'm still up for a laugh, don't want babies, don't want marriage, and am confident in myself (ie don't give a shit). My lower age limit is 35 and I've had a couple of ONS with 37yr olds (with abs!!) and absolutely no one has even noticed the mum tum or saggy bits. They're just men Go for those younger guys!

Thank u so much !!

There's a 50 Yr old Mum at the school, who has kids from a late 30 year-old. So you never know.

Their kids are only 5 by the way

I think there is quite a lot in this, lots of 30/40 yr old men are not really interested in traditional marriage/ kids thing anymore, so dating on older women the perfect solution, paradoxically of course this might be an issue for younger women who might find less men interested the traditional marriage/ kids thing anymore…

Try not to define yourself by youth, op, it won't work, nature has it's privilege.
And there is nothing wrong with that. Every life stage is precious and vital, own yourself and don't suffer fools. No man is going to treat you better due to cosmetic alterations, however there is no issue there so long as you are satisfied with them, of course.

Please consider your own desires and needs. Put them at the top of all lists. Make them paramount. You are the only one here, and your children, who matter. Who is good enough for YOU? Ask this question and ask it often. Don't sit back and wait for approval from anyone.

I am 48 and have gone the other way - sex is great but the fuckery involved with it depresses me, so I opted out. We are all different, with varied drives and ambitions, but it is so important to prioritise the self, for your kids, for you, for the rest of your life. Fuck any single guy's opinion of what that is. Put the onus on them to impress YOU, not the other way around. Good lick <3

We all think we look younger than we are

I’ve recently shagged a guy ten years younger and am currently dating 2 men 5+ years younger. If that’s who you fancy then go for it.

There are plenty of younger men who enjoy a milf, so don’t worry on that score. But if you’re not feeling it then it may be too soon to try dating at all. You need a thick skin for online dating particularly.

Thank you for these words xx

I know ha ... but it is not nature that has made mr look younger I have had help 😂 I mean I think Tom hardy and David beckham are gorgeous and around my age but unfortunately not many of them about ha

Go for the younger men, why ever not? But, what's with this terror or being alone? I mean sure, that's fine to want a partner but can you reframe it a bit. Otherwise, aren't you at risk of leaping at the first guy who comes along?

I suppose I have severe anxiety of getting old tbh and thinking who wants a older woman with two young children of 8 and 4 it is anxiety I suppose

Are you wanting your children to be step patented? Are you wanting to blend families with someone, or do you want something casual?

I settled for my partner don't think I ever really loved him which sounds awful but I think I want to be with some one who loves me as sad as it sound i have never got that off my partner

@SteveHarringtonsChestHair i think you have to have thick skin and balls to date nowadays period … not only online dating 😂😂
@newlysingle1 hey you have no idea how many men would love to really date a woman not a girl that knows where she stands in life, mature yet sassy, articulated, gained invaluable amount of patience and knowledge through trials and errors etc? You’re underestimating how rare you are… you don’t need to live together to have a relationship to start with so go with the flow while the kids grow a bit older and voi lá … I turning 42 end of this month, 5 kids (20,19,17,14,12) married to a 29 years old (never had kids). I was married for 18 years then separated thought no one would ever wanted me with that many kids, lived my life to the fullest, travelled, studied more etc then when I least expected he appeared in my life … and is here to stay! Chin up! Lucky the man who wins your heart I hope he is worth it and is ready for it xx

It is not sad to want to be with simeine who loves you. I think the issue here is yiu need to deal with the terror of being alone. As for aging if you equate your sense of worth to perceived youth and beauty, you will be disappointed. Good luck OP