Is online dating really full of desperate women?

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Years ago one of DH's mates was in the process of separating from his then wife (they're now divorced). Back then, DH told me on more than one occasion that this mate was online dating and was getting loads of dates, at least one a week, different women, for at least a year. I remember the figure of 'fifty' (different women) being bandied about. I was astonished at the time and thought the mate was making it up. Plus, I couldn't comprehend the appeal of such casual dating - from either side! At the time the mate would have been late forties/early fifties.
When I suggested that the mate might be exaggerating, DH used to say himself that his mate was indeed very ordinary looking, yet it was the truth, he said. The explanation being that women were apparently 'desperate'. The sort of women who had been cheated on or had been treated badly were just happy to meet someone normal, apparently!
At the time I simply didn't believe either of them. Lately, I'm not so sure.
Any thoughts?

No 😂if anything it's the men, biologically women aren't desperate, we can wait until we find a suitable partner, men are far less fussy and I'd say desperate for a shag than women. Not to say anything is wrong if the woman also wants to have fun, say after she's already had a family, it's not desperate but an easier way to meet people. Seems like your DH has a dim view of women.

I'm not sure. I like to meet quite quickly so in theory I could have been one of your DHs mates dates, but they rarely make it to the second date and never get a shag out of the first meet

Are they all first dates that go nowhere? Because it's almost like him admitting to failing 50 job interviews

I'm not sure if that was DH's own view as such or whether that was more a second hand view based on what his mate had boasted about. I did argue against it at the time.

How was his mate any less ‘desperate’ when he was on all these dates? 🙄😆

Its really sexist to suggest the women were ‘desperate’ - if the men didn’t want to date them they weren’t obliged to, what a weird way of looking at things.

Yes lots of people are on dating apps, and the idea is you go on dates, until you find someone you’d like to see more regularly, or you get bored & sack it off.

I honestly can’t see why anyone thinks that’s desperate, it’s just how dating apps work!

Are they all first dates that go nowhere? Because it's almost like him admitting to failing 50 job interviews

Yeah it’s not much to boast about is it 😆

If he's decent looking, solvent, emotionally available and ready for a relationship, then my understanding is that he'd be quite rare on OLD and much in demand.

Nothing wrong with single people dating casually and meeting lots of people.

I think there are lots of women who are desperately hoping to find the right person for a serious relationship, compared to the amount of men on there who are just looking for sex/casual relationships (and who sometimes pretend they are looking for more, but then ghost the women)

Well if they're desperate, then he is equally desperate plus undesirable because none seem to want him

I think men wish the women were more desperate!!
(Sometimes men come on to mn and complain how awful it is online for them) My heart bleeds for them.

I never met anybody online who was clean, sane, solvent, good company, focused on me who behaved decently online, and because I'm not desperate, I gave up, much happier single and not trying to date so no use for OLD thank God.
It's a common story on here.

Maybe their taste in men and what they were looking for in a "relationship" matched up. Not everyone is seeking a husband you know - some women just want to have a good time as they heal from whatever sorry bloke they wasted time with previously. For your husband to label them desperate is rude and you should have told him off. He nor you has any right to judge people you don't know. People go on online dating sites to -OMG WHAT A SHOCKER DATE!!!! So they are doing what they are there to do, just as your hubby's friend is. Married folks need to stay out of single people's affairs, let's start there. Get you some business and mind that.

Well there's limitless numbers of people on a dating app. If you're that way inclined (male or female) you absolutely could set up one date a week, probably more, if you want to play the numbers game.

But a date isn't a relationship and I very much doubt he was juggling multiple women, just having one off dates from the sounds if it.

And this guy clearly doesn't think much of himself if women who are into him are desperate.

I mean, it's just comical. I take 'ordinary' to mean below average in this instance

Was your DH just insulting his friend? 'Women on online dating must be desperate if they're going for Brian' type of thing?

Richard herring did a thing where he had 50 dates in a certain amount of time l, can't remember. So feasible.

It makes more sense than going on a dating site and not meeting people.