My husband works away for long periods of time (ranges from weeks-months). This work trip he was away for 5 weeks.
We are both mid 30’s with a normal(ish) sex life, we have 3 kids so we do it when we can! I’m usually the one to instigate most of the sex and I probably speak about it more between the two of us. I’m not a sex pest in any way! I just enjoy it when we’re intimate after he’s been away a long time.
He has been home for 4 days and isn’t interested in me at all. He complains he is tired which I can understand as his work is demanding but the tiredness usually goes away after a couple of days. He’s feeling much better today and has told me he’s going to have a few drinks tonight. He can never just have a few drinks, he always gets drunk.
We never have sex when he’s drunk for various reasons, I really don’t like it.
I can’t help but feel like he’s drinking on purpose, to get out of being intimate with me. Should men not want to be intimate with their wife after being away for so long? Maybe I’m being unreasonable? I don’t know.
He asked me tonight if I was angry with him for drinking, I said no I’m just gutted (as I was hoping for intimacy) and he’s told me I’m making him feel awful for drinking. I asked if he can understand it from my point of view a little bit and he told me no, and that he’s too tired/wants a drink.
Feeling abit rubbish so interested to hear other views. I’m too embarrassed to speak to my friends about it.