H and his relationship with our son

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DS is 5.5. Severe ASD with learning difficulties. Recently he's been saying things I really don't like and then insisting it's in jest

I can't think of the exact words he says. But something like 'my little princess' looking all goey eyes at DD (1 year), and then looking quickly at DS and saying 'Not you though Lenny'

When confronted, he says what?! As if it's all just a big joke

He openly says in front of DS that he's sick of it all and the mess he makes. And then when DS does something very 'unique' such as rolling on a toy or doing something we wouldn't do as NT people, he goes 'just why though' with a half disgusted face

I'm getting sick to the back teeth of it. I know he struggles with DS's disability but all the advice I've got from charities when I've continued in them or close friends I've met through DS's special school, say this behaviour is very normal and part of the grieving process with disabled DC

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Sounds awful OP! I would be leaving

Have you talked to him about it?

I wish I had something constructive to say but I’m just fuming on your sounds behalf.

Your DH sounds like a nasty bully. I get that SEN kids can be really intense but there is zero excuse for that. He sounds ignorant and cruel.

Unfortunately your son will pick up on this. He might not be able to communicate it but he will know.

I couldn’t unsee that and would be putting plans in place to leave. You’ll have to fight for your wee boy a lot in his life - you shouldn’t be having to do it at home.

Your husband is a nasty bully who is openly emotionally abusing your son.

How can you even look at him?

You really have my sympathy.

I think you need to protect your children, both of them from him.

Start keeping notes.