I’m in my late 50s and was so pleased when I met a gentleman in his early 60s approx 18 months ago after surviving the horrors of OLD.
We have had a lovely time despite living some distance apart and have taken turns visiting each other every few weeks. We had both agreed we were not interested in marriage or moving in together but managed to have an exciting refreshing relationship, visiting places and having experiences which my ex was never interested in.
So the week before last was his turn to come to mine. We had a lovely day and evening ( or so I thought) and he left as usual the next morning.
I thought it was strange and a bit rude for him not to text me to say he had arrived home safely or to thank me for a nice evening but know he can be forgetful sometimes.
However 4 days went by with complete radio silence until I eventually sent him a text asking if I had upset him. Was really surprised to get a reply saying no but he had lots going on in his mind and needed some space so I just replied he could have let me know and I would leave him alone.
So far, nothing at all from him. I wouldn’t have been devastated if he had sent me an official breaking up text , would just have thought well I’ve had a good fun 18 months. But I’m so hurt that he feels he can treat me like this. He knows me well enough to know how hurt and surprised I am at being left just hanging.
So, my wise friends. Do I just completely forget him and not get back in touch asking what is happening or do I wait a few weeks and I do the formal breaking up myself? Why do I have the feeling that he may be waiting for me to do it so that he doesn’t feel guilty for being the one doing it? ( if that makes sense).