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Aussiekoalabear · 2022-11-12T17:09:50+00:00

Not sure if I should post this in relationships or mental health. Read about limerance and think I may have this as I have wasted years of my life on someone who flirts but doesn't take it further. If it is limerance it is my first experience of it. Anyone else have it? Can you have one case if it only or could it be something else? What causes it? X

Wizzywoo18 · 14/11/2022 08:52

@Watchkeys you seem to be on this thread in order to be argumentative and dismissive rather than offering compassionate advice.

Watchkeys · 14/11/2022 09:32

Wizzywoo18 · 14/11/2022 08:52

@Watchkeys you seem to be on this thread in order to be argumentative and dismissive rather than offering compassionate advice.

I offered advice to OP.

Thank you for vetting and analysing my posts. I'm allowed to respond to criticisms of them.

GrowUpWoman · 18/09/2023 14:09

Sorry to resurrect this old thread but I’m going through something like this so was searching ‘Limerance’.

I could have written exactly this, @Somethingvague

There was a coworker who I'd worked with for a couple of years and although he was an attractive guy, I was in a happy long term relationship. Then put of nowhere, he directed a couple of mildly flirtatious comments towards me, and it was like something exploded in my brain. I was obsessed. I started imagining a life where I left my partner and we ran away together and fixated on opportunities to bump into him at work.

This is me this week! He has made a few comments like this and it’s like something has literally exploded in my head too - and there is so much ‘noise’ related to this man in my thoughts - to the extent that I don’t dare speak on work calls in case I randomly say his name instead of whatever word I should be using 😳.

It’s bonkers. And exhausting. I am happily married with three DC. I don’t even know why I’m posting this - just to get it out of my head a bit I think. And to say I’m heartened by the ‘this too shall pass’ type responses to the OP.

I hope everyone who was similarly suffering on this thread gets over theirs soon. And that normal service resumes here too 🙄🤣

GrowUpWoman · 18/09/2023 14:22

GrowUpWoman · 18/09/2023 14:09

Sorry to resurrect this old thread but I’m going through something like this so was searching ‘Limerance’.

I could have written exactly this, @Somethingvague

There was a coworker who I'd worked with for a couple of years and although he was an attractive guy, I was in a happy long term relationship. Then put of nowhere, he directed a couple of mildly flirtatious comments towards me, and it was like something exploded in my brain. I was obsessed. I started imagining a life where I left my partner and we ran away together and fixated on opportunities to bump into him at work.

This is me this week! He has made a few comments like this and it’s like something has literally exploded in my head too - and there is so much ‘noise’ related to this man in my thoughts - to the extent that I don’t dare speak on work calls in case I randomly say his name instead of whatever word I should be using 😳.

It’s bonkers. And exhausting. I am happily married with three DC. I don’t even know why I’m posting this - just to get it out of my head a bit I think. And to say I’m heartened by the ‘this too shall pass’ type responses to the OP.

I hope everyone who was similarly suffering on this thread gets over theirs soon. And that normal service resumes here too 🙄🤣

This, in my post, should have been in bold - I was quoting SomethingVague

There was a coworker who I'd worked with for a couple of years and although he was an attractive guy, I was in a happy long term relationship. Then put of nowhere, he directed a couple of mildly flirtatious comments towards me, and it was like something exploded in my brain. I was obsessed. I started imagining a life where I left my partner and we ran away together and fixated on opportunities to bump into him at work.