Is it OK to ask this?

[ILoveCandlelight]

Not going to get into loads of detail about this but just want to get an idea of what other people would do.

My partner is friends with someone on fb I don't like. The feeling is mutual. I have good reason for this and this person and I no longer speak.

I feel quite strongly that I don't want him sharing any posts regarding me eg nights out etc because I don't really want this person to see them or have any access to me or my life whatsoever. We have no contact with this person anymore and neither does my partner.

I'm not going to start dictating who he is fb friends with but would it he OK to ask him not to post anything with me or referring to me?

Yes.

He can post whatever he likes about himself, but when it involves other people he has to respect their wishes.

I'm not going to start dictating who he is fb friends with but would it he OK to ask him not to post anything with me or referring to me?

Yes, I ask DH and DD before I post anything related to them. Common courtesy in my mind.

You don't need to dictate, or to ask him to do/change anything. Tell him how you feel, and what your worries are.

If he respects you, he won't post anything about you that the other person can see.

It’s okay to ask but you can’t control his answer or actions.

probably best to duck out of photos in the first place?

I don't understand. You say your partner has no contact with this person so why are they facebook friends with them?

Because I don't think he's ever unfriended anyone - he's got friends of his ex wife's on there he hasn't seen or spoken to in 15 years 🤷🏻‍♀️ they just don't interact with each other.

OK, I will ask him. It's hard to avoid all photos. It's normal for couples to take photos of each other etc on days/nights out surely?

Would be much simpler for him to have a cull of fb "friends" he is no longer friends with.

Or, he can set up a list of his real friends and make his settings so that all his posts automatically can only be seen by the people jn the list.

Or, he can stop posting what he's doing on SM!

In this case I'd just ask him to delete this person, hardly a big deal

I agree but I'm not going to suggest it!

It's normal for couples to take photos of each other etc on days/nights out surely?
If I think of my Facebook and Instagram feeds more don’t share than do. Unless of course they don’t get out much 🤣
I would always ask DH, DC or friends before tagging them.

Why don’t you want to suggest it op? Or at least, getting rid of the one person you dislike?

I’d ask him to delete her - if neither of you speak to them anymore it shouldn’t bother him

Quick update.

We spoke about it last night. He'd already put this person on restricted so they couldn't see what he posted but then decided to delete them.