Why do some men constantly talk about money?

[Onesizecashmere]

Does anyone else came across this? A middle aged man who in absolutely every single conversation talks about money? How much does this or that cost, how much his pension is this week, how much he saved on bills or something, how much something he saw in a shop was online, how much petrol is in this location and how much in that location. I mean seriously? Constantly only this one topic?
I wonder when will I hear about an interesting article (not money related), art exhibition, book, music, joke, place. Non stop about money.
Is he trying to impress me? Money doesn't impress me, I have my own.
I do not talk about my property, my car, my work, my investments. He however asks me about my money situation as for 'it is our future'. Erm, is it?

I am a bit puzzled about that constant need to stay on this topic. To me it actually shows money anxiety rather than comfort. When I try to steer away from topic, he becomes aggressive as 'oh well you never want to talk about money but maybe you should' but talk about what? Does he want to know my bank balance or what? I do know he wants to get married to me and is upset I don't. I have no interest in getting married now mid life.

Anyone has thoughts on constant money talk? Is there a way to stop this? x

What exactly is your relationship? Is he a long term partner? Do you live together?

Is he struggling with money OP?

5y in relationship

not struggling at all, he's earning v well

Sounds like he's after your money Op.
How to stop it?
Run a mile !🏃

I'm puzzled as to why you have been with this man for 5 years, and apparently you are still with him. He doesn't seem to give you any of the things that matter to you. And his interest in your money is deeply suspicious.

Is he worried you're in debt? Surely he knows a lot about you by now?

Okay.... being open about money isn't that unusual when you're in a long term relationship. It's pretty normal, as your partner is usually one of the few people you can be open with.

His comment to you makes it sound as though he is trying to plan his future. Is he coming up to retirement and considering his options? Is he trying to work out when he'll be able to stop work?

If so, that context would make it a pretty normal thing to talk about.

If, on the other hand, it's just random boasting for no reason - that's weird.

Is talking about money in a constant way a new phenomenon?

IME, which is limited to two long-term relationships and dating a wide variety of men for a few months (or so) at a time, talking about money in a general sense is usual .... as and when a specific topic comes up.

I'd be bored senseless by anyone talking about money non-stop or turning every conversation to a materialistic element. Sorry.

Just tell him OP. I am financially fine if your concern is I can't pay my way. I have no wish, and never will, to get married, not just to you but to anyone, so there is no legal reason for any of our finances to be entangled. Is this clear? In fact I find that money is your only subject and it's boring me to stupidity.

In answer to your question, no not all middle aged men talk about money. Especially the ones who have enough.

My middle aged man talks about anything and everything, sport, art, science, politics (domestic and world wide), ethics, philosophy. We had a good half hour conversation about Christmas crackers this week about how he wants to feel for the duration and act of pulling a cracker and their contents to please a cross-generational crowd.....in nearly two decades I never knew he had such complex thoughts on christmas crackers but there we go 🌲🙃

And he never once asked how much the final choice of cracker would cost!

Some people.prioritise money over everything else. It's what makes them happy.

It doesn't interest me in the slightest.

I have a friend who is a bit like this. He is loaded so it's paid off! But I find it so dull. He asked me out once and this was the sole reason I turned him down.

I'd rather be with someone on minimum wage who makes me laugh than someone who has money but nothing else to talk about!

Why?
Because he's totally boring.

It sounds as if it's driving him crazy not knowing about your finances.

He sounds very boring.

I'd be asking him why all he talks about is money.

It's not money he is obsessed with, its how much he has of it. I would also find it boring and a bit shallow to be honest. I would find spending time with him dull if that's what the bulk of his thought life amounts to.

I have found that many men who are very financially secure can be very INSECURE deep down. It's as if having money and keeping it and not spending too much of it is a security blanket for them.

Five years!!!! Stop trying to analyse him. It’s just his personality, not a personality I would bother with but if you’ve been together five years, his good points hopefully outnumber his boring conversation style.