My Marriage Is Over

[HelloBunny]

I don’t want to go into detail right now... But, it’s over. Part of me is relieved. Part of me is in terrible pain. I’m heartbroken for our son, who’s two years old & crazy about his dad.

I’ve come back from so much before. And I can’t come back from the current situation. He probably thinks we can work it out, again. Not this time. My life will be better without him.

it’s extremely difficult to admit that. But, there it is. Meeting my mother in the morning. Obviously, I’m going to break down when I see her... I so wish this wasn’t happening! I can’t believe it’s the end.

Sending lots of energy and strength to you. You sound very sure of your decision. I'm sorry that you have had to get to this. You deserve to be happy.

Thanks, Anotherpairofshoes. I know, I’ve been here before... But I’m sure. I have to just decide what’s best, bottom line. Spoke to a friend who’s divorced, a little while ago.

She advised to sort out your differences if you can. As, her divorce was horrendous (I’m sure most are!). One child as well. It’s mental health problems, with my DH.

Sending you love and strength. You've got this. Each step you take is a journey towards the end. Well done on making what sounds like a really tough decision. 💐

Yes obviously it's best to try and sort differences first - it sounds like you have attempted to do that.
Is DH recognising that he has mental health problems and is he getting help?

Yes, he has seen a therapist.
He’s talking suicide again.
I’ve advised calling Samaritans.

He is unable to deal with normal life. I can’t help him anymore.

That's so tough for you. I would ensure that you inform his GP about the threats

I am very sorry op; this must be so painful for you. Sometimes you have to protect yourself and your ds and draw a line. It’s good you are meeting your mother; I hope she can offer you some rl support.

Thanks, everyone. I do think talking to the GP is a good idea. She has been excellent with him, on this.

if it was the MH problems, then I could help. But, it’s his actions. Which he says are caused by his issues.

I can’t “save” him. And I don’t want my son to be in the same position as me, with DH, when he’s older.

Sounds like you have really tried your best and you must put your DS first. Hope you felt better telling your mum. (Im dreading telling mine!) its short(er) term pain for longer term happiness!

So sorry. Wrong post