Name changed, this post is very outing which may lead people into other posts which weren't so obviously me. Not sure how many people this has happened too.
not even sure relationships is the right section.
anyway, will try keep it short.
Please no sharing this story out of this post. It probably doesn't sound as bad on paper as in real life anyway 😅
I have never known my bio dad. My mum spoke little of him in my early years and still doesn't now really.
when I was in year 5 or 6 I found out a girl in my school was my half sibling, same year different class, there's less than 2 months between us me being 2 months older. It's weird because everyone thought we looked alike and got us muddled up, we were friends too and socialised out of school. Our mothers always knew, both messed around by bio dad and they kept it secret for a long time. Despite that she actually seen our dad whereas I didn't. Any friendship with her broke down as the years went on, it was too awkward. She had a sporadic relationship with bio dad, I did not. My bio dad and my half sisters mum also had an older child together so I have 2 half siblings plus all the other kids he's probably had around the country - total womaniser it seems.
basically my mother was pregnant and engaged to him, he was split from their mother but he had visited their older child and obviously had intercourse, my half sister was conceived through a string one night stands between them I believe. My mum is also believed to be the other woman as she had a baby with this man between 2 full siblings but it now the case, he was divorced from his ex and was living with my mother. My mother ended it with him, my half siblings mother did not want him either. They both did it alone pretty much. My mother and their mother are now friends which makes it even weirder, but they never pushed myself and half siblings to be close.
But their mother pushed for a relationship with our dad, my mother did not. Half siblings had sporadic contact, perhaps once or twice a year, nothing much but they know their father, I do not.
I don't really have much contact with my half siblings. We are friends on social media and my 'dad' and his now younger children he has will comment on my half siblings post and it just makes me cringe tbh. Cringe that I come from such a dysfunctional family that I know my siblings but not my dad.
I am not sure what the point of this post is really but sometimes I like to talk about it - my mum refuses to talk about him, my partner has heard it so many times. I have undiagnosed autism and it messes with my head. My mother makes all of it about her and how he hurt her, I get it but she doesn't realise how this makes me feel - not that is her fault.
I was about 9 or 10 when I found out my friend was my half sister. I have my own children around that age and I look at them and think wtf, I was that age when I found out my friend was my sister but I never actually gained a sister from it as never had a sisterly relationship. I have little contact with the one the same age as me, but I do have some occasional contact with the older one.
it just spins me out.