We have been married 11 years, together 15. Dh had a long term relationship before me but we have never really discussed previous partners. We have a 3 year old and a 6 month old.
When I was pregnant with the 6 month old, DH seemed odd. A bit distant but he goes like this from time to time when he has deadlines coming up in work so I don't pay too much attention. One night during pregnancy, I woke up and he was texting someone and there was something about the way he turned over quickly in bed that made me think something was off. Like he didn't want me to see his phone. It happened another night and I thought that I could see a nick name version of his ex girlfriend's name in his list of chats. So say her name is Martina, I thought I saw the name 'Tina' but I was blurry eyed as it was 3am and thought I was overreacting over nothing.
I forgot about it and decided not to stress out as i can get paranoid in pregnancy even though DH has never given me any reason to be. By paranoid I mean that I get very sensitive and think nobody likes me, people are talking about me etc. I'm not like this when not pregnant.
The thought has crossed my mind fron time to time but otherwise I've had nothing to go on and so have let it go. Besides, she lives in another country and has done for some time.
This morning before he went to work, he was sitting looking very pensive. I asked what was up as he seemed so deep in thought. For some reason, I immediately thought 'he is thinking about Martina'.
He kind of shrugged it off then got up to go and started talking about a work thing. For context, one of his colleagues is called, say, Maxine.He said 'Martina, I mean, Maxine, asked if I want to do her overtime in a few weeks.' I acted like I hadn't noticed but it definitely got my heckles up.
A few days ago, I asked him to take a picture of me and the baby as he was doing something really cute. When I went to look at the photo, the next picture in the gallery was locked. What does that even mean? I never even knew you could lock photos. He had been taking other pictures of us before this photo and I doubt he had time to lock that specific photo. What is that about? Does he have some kind of setting to lock photos from a certain person, is that a thing??
I haven't asked him anything about anything. I don't know why. I always feel so shocked that I clam up and try to gloss over it. I've never had any reason to doubt him before but I have hunch that he is in contact with an ex and has been for a while. I don't have a jealous personality and have never suspected any partner of cheating in the past. I'm not insecure and never snoop through his phone etc.
I don't know what exactly I want from posting this. I just have a feeling that something is weird but strongly suspect if I bring him 'just a hunch' he won't be honest with me, if something is up.