You know when someone helps you

[StrewthMarge]

With kindness by supporting you with their presence and kinds words and then they feel like they can tell you what to do afterwards? What can you say to ask them to just back off with out being rude.

I was in a bit of a bad way a few months ago. A relative came to visit and was very kind and supportive.

I'm fine now but this relative keeps calling and texting me with, "You need to...., "You really ought to....", "Have you done.....why? / why not?" and "I don't think that's a good idea right now."

I'm very grateful for their help when I needed it but I feel they now think they have a say in everything I do and want.

Can you limit what you tell them? The less they know about your life, the less they can have an opinion on.

Practice responding with confident rebuffs, "I'm all good thanks, I know how I'm going to handle it"..."No need, all sorted now".... and move the conversation on. Don't always take their calls. Be busy. As well as reducing the amount of time you have to listen to their 'advice' it shows them you have a life and you have other people and you aren't reliant on them.

Show them you are in charge of your own life and can run it perfectly well.

Say thanks I’ll think about it then don’t