Spontaneous sex

[34and3]

Am I the only one to not be able to go for it without shaved legs, freshly showered etc?! Fwiw been with dh 11 years and have three kids so sex is rare at the best of times but spontaneous. How?!

This is excellent advice!

Although two years in I am down to a once or twice a week trim rather than a shave every day!

My partner and I don’t care about that stuff - if we both feel like it we do it. I can’t stand the have a shower/shave your legs thing, it would just kill the fun and spontaneity of it. That said I keep my legs shaved anyway, have a shower most days etc, so things never get that bad, lol

Don’t tell anyone but sex is a messy business 😉Unless you stink I wouldn’t worry about it. I’d find it more yuck not having a shower after than before.

Just try not to get thrown out of tesco.

I don't have my legs (or anywhere) because I have very sensitive skin that just flairs up whenever I shave, immac or wax so no, I don't have any problems with avoiding spontaneous sex for fear of being hairy!

I am sure your DH would rather have sex with a stubbly stinker than not have sex. Life is short - stop shaving your body hair. We have managed to have sex for millennia with out shaving our legs and scrubbing our foofs.

I don’t think my DH cares about my legs? I wouldn’t leave them ages then expect him to be happy about it but if it’s been a couple of days since I last shaved them I’m not sure he even notices. If he does he doesn’t complain! But if you aren’t comfortable with that then you need to work shaving into your routine of getting ready each day.

Yes I'm the same I have to be just washed shaved ect otherwise I feel really grim and not sexy during sex. Then I get in a mood because I've just washed and need to do it again after 😂

I'm fair and don't have particularly heavy hair so OH wouldn't notice and wouldn't care.

i am the same as you, like to be clean and not stubbly (probably stubbly legs are ok but not stubbly nether regions). I’m reading all these replies about the mood taking people and can honestly say this doesn’t happen to me with DP so I must just have a low libido/only be turned on by myself being clean 😂

I prefer to be showered before although there are times when it is not practical or the right moment to do so. As for shaving, all my body hair is kept very much at bay anyway.

That's just it, I don't FEEL sexy if not clean and smooth. So if I don't feel it myself I can't act it around dh either!

This is grim. What happened to making an effort and feeling attractive? If you don’t want to shave, then great and you do you. There’s a wide spectrum between choice and being comfortable with that and just resigning oneself to being a slob.

I take decent care of myself - because I want to - and so I’m always as ‘ready’ as I am comfortable being.

What’s stopping you from shaving more regularly?

This is me too! If we have sex it’s because I’ve decided earlier in the night that we’re going to and suitably ‘prepared’ myself. Married and been together 8 years. Have never ‘broke wind’ in front of him either or mentioned any toilet conversation at all 😳 he does the same with me but I think it keeps it more like what it’s like at the start rather than over sharing with each other

Also planning to get laser hair removal, I think it would transform my life!

We have sex every few days so if it’s been a few days I know it’s probs on the cards so I’ll shower/shave. Just because you anticipate it it doesn’t make it less sexy, I don’t understand the obsession with spontaneous sex.
we do also have spontaneous sex where I won’t shower but also neither of us care.

I feel a bit sad for you. If I’m up for a shag nothing stops me from jumping DH bones, or he mine. Life is short, be spontaneous and take joy when you can. Have you never had a quickie? You’re missing out!

I shower or bath every day so am always clean enough for sex. For oral I prefer to be shower fresh- although it really doesn't bother me if DP isn't.

I try to stay stubble free because DP throws my legs around his neck/over his shoulders 😂but sometimes I forget to shave and it really doesn't put him off.

Of course i blooming shower every day!! but if it's the evening and my shower was in the morning, or first thing in the morning when my shower was last night then no, I do not feel clean. Oral would 100% be off the table. I'd need to - at the very least - go for a quick bits and pits wash.

For those saying life's too short. Yep life's too short to have sex when you're not squeaky clean.