Hello
Just wanted to see what peoples thoughts were on this one because I’ve woken up confused again.
About six months ago I met someone at the hobby I do, and we ended up sleeping together (there was an event for the hobby and everyone was staying in the same hotel etc). It was all fine and I thought a bit of fun, we made friends in a group, exchanged social media etc. Me and this man live a long way apart but casually kept in touch.
Two months ago there was another meet up where things progressed and he tried it on again. I explained that although I thought he was brilliant, Id been having a bad few months and didn’t want anything right then, was being up front and transparent with my emotions. He told several of our mutual friends he was very very into me and wanted something more. I understand this might come across as a rejection but I honestly could not start anything romantic at that point in my life as it would have been doomed.
Since then we have slowly started chatting more, from several times a week to pretty much constantly (not solid conversation but texts back and forth if that makes sense). I thought he was one of the funniest , kindest people I’ve ever met. I got into a far better place personally and was open to progressing things.
As soon as I started trying to have the conversation about this with him, things changed - it’s almost as if he’s sensed vulnerability and is now acting almost annoyed and negging me, being snipey, but is still the one initiating the conversation.
i understand he might have felt hurt by me saying I wasn’t ready to pursue anything but that was months ago and this is now - it feels like he’s sensed my shift in feeling towards him and wants to flip the power dynamic? (Which I don’t believe there should be anyway?)
has anyone else got any similar experience of this? I know it sounds like a bad sign but I’m just so confused