Ex husband with his tail between his legs...

leedsandcardiff · 2022-11-08T16:20:17+00:00

This is purely a vent as there's no answer and it's nothing to do with me....however........ Married for 25 years. Husband had an affair with foreign woman 18 years his junior. He was 'madly in love', she was 'perfect, slimmer, much more fun, exotic, had bigger brown eyes and was amazing in bed'. Yes, I heard it all. Within a matter of months, he was married and now has two children with her. He's mid 50's and back to changing nappies again whilst our grown-up kids are mid-twenties. Surprise, surprise, the grass wasn't as green as he thought and despite messing up my life and leaving me broken hearted, a single parent and penniless, he's now looking for sympathy from our grown-up kids. Poor Daddy is depressed and has no friends and doesn't like spending his 50's watching Peppa Pig and pushing a double buggy! I want to bloody scream!!!!!!!!! Has anyone else got a knob of an ex who thought the grass was green and shiny where the OW stood???

Righthandcider · 08/11/2022 16:25

Not me but a family friend of my parents' generation. Her DH dumped her when their kids were teens, told her he'd never loved her and ran off with someone 'perfect'. Perfect woman lasted a couple of years. Since then he's been married a further three times and is about to do it again. In between every single one he comes back to his first wife and pines for the old days before he left her.

She and her now second husband of 20 years think it's funny /tragic and just roll their eyes. He's often round at their house and they've even been known to let him tag along for family holidays.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 08/11/2022 16:25

No idea whether ex is still with the OW (divorced years ago), but I recall one weekend he popped in for coffee (he played golf nearby) and was complaining that she demanded to know where he was at all times because 'she doesn't trust me,' and he got all wobbly lipped about it. No, really? the woman you were shagging behind your wife's back and for who you walked out on your wife and who you have messed around, along with your wife, for the last two years, thinks you can't be trusted? can't imagine why.

Juststopit · 08/11/2022 16:28

Mine told me he was going to have loads of holidays, shiny new merc, fabulous property and that I’d be jealous. Fast forward five years he’s in a shitty rented flat, driving a beaten up 15 year old car and hasn’t been away once. I, however, am fabulous - and not jealous 😁

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leedsandcardiff · 08/11/2022 16:28

@Righthandcider - the tagging along on holiday part made me feel a bit sick. How utterly pathetic !!! LOL !!

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Chailatteplease · 08/11/2022 16:28

Sounds incredibly satisfying OP. Revel in it 😁

KettrickenSmiled · 08/11/2022 16:29

Fuck him, & fuck the lame horse he rode in on OP.

Right now - you need CHUMPLADY!
www.chumplady.com/

Full of wisdom, coping advice, & 100% snark - she is hilarious & clear-sighted.
Have a browse round the archives, & start killing yourself laughing about kibbles, & cake-eating ... & how all these sad sacks have the exact same Script ...

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leedsandcardiff · 08/11/2022 16:30

@KettrickenSmiled - yes! Read her book! Fabulous.

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leedsandcardiff · 08/11/2022 16:32

@Juststopit - good for you!!!!! Continue being fabulous :)

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 08/11/2022 16:33

Juststopit · 08/11/2022 16:28

Mine told me he was going to have loads of holidays, shiny new merc, fabulous property and that I’d be jealous. Fast forward five years he’s in a shitty rented flat, driving a beaten up 15 year old car and hasn’t been away once. I, however, am fabulous - and not jealous 😁

Oh yes, and he made sure that I knew via a third party he'd 'just made his first million.' Except it was on paper and a few years later the company folded with a loss. So much for 'one day I'm going to be a millionaire.'

Sunshineandflipflops · 08/11/2022 17:09

Mine had an affair with someone 13 years younger, fun, child free, blah blah. Completely pulled the rug from under my feet but I went to counselling, rebuilt my life without him, and 5 years later I own our family home by myself, have a great partner of 3 years and a new job. His relationship with the OW lasted a year or so before their differences came to the surfaces (a big one being he had had his children and a vasectomy so definitely didn't want any more).

His second relationship has also just ended and I keep getting the 'my life is so stressful/I need a break' pity party. He has the dc 40% of the time and does less than 10% of the mental load for them so what he needs a break from I have no idea but yeah...don't think it's now he imagined things would turn out when he was having fun shagging her behind my back...

barbrahunter · 08/11/2022 17:10

I have a similar story about my ex, although it was me who eventually managed to get rid of him after 20 years of shit. He was a gambling, womanising, lying, cheating, gaslighting sex pest git. Anyway...

After he left, he used to come back to see me so that he could whinge about his new woman who apparently didn't trust him and sometimes shouted at him. O dear, I was sorry NOT.

MissMaple82 · 08/11/2022 17:11

Don't scream... laugh

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 08/11/2022 17:25

barbrahunter · 08/11/2022 17:10

I have a similar story about my ex, although it was me who eventually managed to get rid of him after 20 years of shit. He was a gambling, womanising, lying, cheating, gaslighting sex pest git. Anyway...

After he left, he used to come back to see me so that he could whinge about his new woman who apparently didn't trust him and sometimes shouted at him. O dear, I was sorry NOT.

Mine complained that OW 'couldn't cook' and he missed my Sunday roasts. Bit my tongue on the retort that she probably had other talents that made up for it.

Sixsmith · 08/11/2022 17:27

Aren't men daft

Catflapping · 08/11/2022 17:42

Me and my ex had a baby together when I was 20, he was 22. We stayed together for 5 years, had a pleasant life, gearing up for a house and marriage. He decided he’d missed out too much on the freedom of his 20s and wanted out so he could go out every weekend and have a fun life with his mates. Went out the weekend after he made this declaration, got an 18 year old pregnant, he’d told her to get an abortion, she said she would then turned up 2 months later saying they wanted to keep it. He turned up on my doorstep in tears. He wanted freedom and now he was going to have to do family life all over again only with someone he didn’t love, after only 4 months of living the life he wanted. Wanted to come back because he had to pick one of us and I was the better option… told him to fuck off. He’s still with her now, tells me how miserable he is but wouldn’t be any better off with someone new.
I have a lovely life without him!

BMW6 · 08/11/2022 17:46

Aw, you'd have to have a heart of stone not to laugh until you were sick 😂

orangegato · 09/01/2023 16:48

Catflapping · 08/11/2022 17:42

Me and my ex had a baby together when I was 20, he was 22. We stayed together for 5 years, had a pleasant life, gearing up for a house and marriage. He decided he’d missed out too much on the freedom of his 20s and wanted out so he could go out every weekend and have a fun life with his mates. Went out the weekend after he made this declaration, got an 18 year old pregnant, he’d told her to get an abortion, she said she would then turned up 2 months later saying they wanted to keep it. He turned up on my doorstep in tears. He wanted freedom and now he was going to have to do family life all over again only with someone he didn’t love, after only 4 months of living the life he wanted. Wanted to come back because he had to pick one of us and I was the better option… told him to fuck off. He’s still with her now, tells me how miserable he is but wouldn’t be any better off with someone new.
I have a lovely life without him!

This is magical 😂

smileyeye · 09/01/2023 17:10

Catflapping · 08/11/2022 17:42

Me and my ex had a baby together when I was 20, he was 22. We stayed together for 5 years, had a pleasant life, gearing up for a house and marriage. He decided he’d missed out too much on the freedom of his 20s and wanted out so he could go out every weekend and have a fun life with his mates. Went out the weekend after he made this declaration, got an 18 year old pregnant, he’d told her to get an abortion, she said she would then turned up 2 months later saying they wanted to keep it. He turned up on my doorstep in tears. He wanted freedom and now he was going to have to do family life all over again only with someone he didn’t love, after only 4 months of living the life he wanted. Wanted to come back because he had to pick one of us and I was the better option… told him to fuck off. He’s still with her now, tells me how miserable he is but wouldn’t be any better off with someone new.
I have a lovely life without him!

This is fabulous.

Ofcourseshecan · 09/01/2023 18:49

Catflapping · 08/11/2022 17:42

Me and my ex had a baby together when I was 20, he was 22. We stayed together for 5 years, had a pleasant life, gearing up for a house and marriage. He decided he’d missed out too much on the freedom of his 20s and wanted out so he could go out every weekend and have a fun life with his mates. Went out the weekend after he made this declaration, got an 18 year old pregnant, he’d told her to get an abortion, she said she would then turned up 2 months later saying they wanted to keep it. He turned up on my doorstep in tears. He wanted freedom and now he was going to have to do family life all over again only with someone he didn’t love, after only 4 months of living the life he wanted. Wanted to come back because he had to pick one of us and I was the better option… told him to fuck off. He’s still with her now, tells me how miserable he is but wouldn’t be any better off with someone new.
I have a lovely life without him!

I have a lovely life without him!

Good! You deserve it. And so do all the other posters here who picked themselves and DC up and made happier lives.