don't know if it is normal to feel like this.

[fifibella]

dd1 is 19 months old, she was delivered by em c section after a difficult labour. prior to the birth MIL was coming out with funny little comments (eg: we were having a conversation one day and she said that dh's grandmother wanted me to have a girl so then MIL said she wanted me to have a boy, my reply was i don't mind as long as baby is ok.) and after the birth i got upset by comments made by MIL and dh's grandmother.

they all came round the day after i got home which was 2 days after i had had the op ( didn't take me long to realise that i came out of hospital too soon), they all sat down on the sofa and left me to stand up while dd got passed around everyone and FIL took photo's (totally ignoring me). this continues now with the photos but that's another story.

there are also alot of other things which have happened but too much to go into detail.

i did have the baby blues (wasn't diagnosed with PND) for quite a while and i used to get really upset when i knew PIL were coming to visit, things did eventually settle.

i am now pg with no2, have only recently found out but i keep thinking about all these things which have happened in the past and i am getting quite anxious about how things will be when no2 is born. in laws don't know that i am pg yet. don't know if i can trust MIL 100% to keep it to herself until i've had the first scan.

just wondering if it is normal to feel like this especially early on during the pg. keep thinking its maybe the hormones.

I think with family you have to let things go over your head a little and just ignore. My mil is brilliant but likes to be very involved, (too much sometimes). Yesterday she said asked when ds 18months was going to have his MMR, as she had been discussing it with her neigbour who is getting her ds done soon. And then she said "you don't want him to get measles do you"? Of course I bloody don't but I just said I would make my decision in my own time.

It sounds quite normal to me - what with hormones and your fear of a repeat of the past. You were feeling very vunerable after your fist birth and it is easy to take things the wrong way and feel that you are being overlooked.

Try and relax and enjoy this pg.

You need to learn to stand up for yourself. You should not have been left to stand, you should not have ALLOWED yourself to be left to stand, you should have said "Someone move then, please, I've just had a major operation."

Do unto them, don't wait for them to do unto you.