Getting through another break up

[Bedazzled22]

Im early 50’s and been with DP 17 years and we have a young teen DS. We’ve both been divorced. Things been rough for a few years with me discovering he’s been on dating sites repeatedly as our relationship sexless (both our faults). Shouldve ended it then I know but I kept trying. We’re now at mutually agreed end. Not told anyone yet but I just feel such a loser now another long term relationship over (strangely enough last one was 17 years).

Obviously dreading telling our balanced happy DS but hoping he will be ok. He is much loved. I also dread telling my elderly parents who are mid 80’s.

I know I’m lucky, I’m healthy and financially independent and have wonderful friends, but I just feel such a failure. I will however learn from this experience…

I'm really sorry you are having to go through this and sending lots of virtual hugs. Me too but much shorter relationship and no children together but still not easy. It's really positive that you know you'll learn from this experience and have great friends to support you. I believe that if the child/ren are loved, supported and happy first and foremost then everything else will be ok eventually.
I must say please try not to see it as a failure, I think society puts expectations and labels relationships too harshly generally. It sounds like you tried your best but you can't keep doing that on your own, it takes 2 and I hope your parents will understand that and would rather you feel valued and be happy.

@Neoma22 Thanks for your kind words. Hope you are ok too. It’ll be ok in time!