Is this weird..?

[firecracker85]

Hi! Is this just me or it this odd? Any comments welcome!

My partner of 6 years has been having various medical symptoms ( nothing too serious).

I've been on at him for months to make a doctors appointment.

He finally did it and involved me in the whole thing I.e he wanted my help in detailing all his symptoms etc, and after the appointment he relayed everything the doctor said.

He had to go for some blood tests about 4 weeks ago.
He never heard anything back so I'd been on at him about chasing up the results which he said he had done.

About a week ago, he was out the room and an email notification popped up on his phone (yes, I read it). It was the Doctors saying his blood test results were normal. Obviously I didn't tell him I'd seen it and thought just wait until he tells me himself.

Only, he hasn't mentioned it.

I've brought it up just casually if he'd heard anything yet and he said 'no, not yet'. I was a bit taken aback so I just said 'oh ok'.

What the hell? That's a blatant lie! Why would one even lie about that? I could understand if there was a dodgy result and he didn't want to tell me, but all results were normal!

Why would someone even lie about that? I told my friend and she's just as confused as I am.

Any idea?? What should I do now? Never mention it again or raise it again in a couple of weeks?

He may have missed the email? I miss emails every so often.

I never check my emails. Maybe he doesn't. He wouldn't have seen the notification pop up if you saw it so maybe he genuinely doesn't think he has heard anything 🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe prompt him by suggesting he checks his emails to see if they've been in touch!

I left the notification on the Lock Screen as it was. So he would've definitely seen it when he went on his phone next. You can read it from the lock screen which is what I did but I didn't "open it" or remove the notification, so 100% he has seen it

Has he been using his 'symptoms' for his own gain in any way? A family member of mine really hams it up with talk of 'investigations' every time they want a ticket to act like a prick

Hmm, funny you say this actually.

His symptoms are things like- no energy, insomnia, forgetfulness, irritable and a load of other things that he had diagnosed himself with some sort of early onset dementia. He's 37. The doctor shut that down straight away. Said more likely to do with his shift patterns, night shifts, line of work etc but sent him for blood test anyway.

I say funny you say this as he did mention before about he thinks it might be low testosterone levels and was saying they might put him on TRT and I think he seemed a bit excited by that.

So it's crossed my mind... is he going to pretend it's his testosterone levels as an excuse to start taking TRT. I looked into it and it can be controversial I believe but I can see why he'd want to take it!

That (his lie) is really odd. Is he prone to attention-seeking?

Maybe leave it a week and ask him WHAT the results of his blood test were. If he denies anything say, “Oh, I thought you’d have had the results by now. It’s been x weeks now hasn’t it? I guess no news is good news”.

Rather than asking IF he’s had the results yet.

And ask him face to face.

Open ended question! Good idea.

No, he's not an attention seeker at all.

I can't get my head around why he'd lie.

There’s no getting away from the fact it’s odd and he’s lied but I’m wondering whether it’s more of a frustration thing.

Like, sometimes when you feel shit for so long and you finally have some tests, it’s actually disappointing for nothing to come up. Because without a diagnosis it feels like you can’t get better.

I don’t know if that makes sense to your average healthy person but as someone recently diagnosed with POTS, I can say that it was a relief to have a label. Even though I’m no better yet, I feel hopeful that I can improve.

This also makes sense to me.

He's been convinced it's one thing or another since last year now.

Maybe you're right. Rather than being relieved the results were normal, he's frustrated that he still feels poorly and there doesn't seem to be an answer.

Maybe he doesn't want me going on at him to try and find an answer too, seeing as I was on his back to make the appointment and chase the results.

You could suggest he gets a print out of the blood results. Ime GPs often say blood tests are “fine” even when something is low,. As long as it is within the range they’ll class it as normal when most you want in highest quadrant if the range to be optimal.