I have always been an introvert. I like my own space. I don't like parties, big crowds of people etc. I live for the countryside, peace, tranquility.
I've not long had a baby. I'm on mat leave and dh works away from home. I have a teenage daughter. I find life at home very isolating but at the same time feel my space is intruded when family try to step in to help or visit.
I'm constantly met with last minute requests to pop in. The phone goes every other day with someone wanting something or wanting to swing by and I hate it. I have to mentally prepare myself for visitors and prefer when dh is home.
I like to be presentable and for the house to be tidy. I don't do well when sleep deprived and I'm sleep deprived right now...I find visitors and family very over powering especially when I've had little sleep. I do not want or need help. I don't want anyone to take baby out or hold the baby whilst I shower etc. I want my house to myself.
I have friends but they are busy on weekends and one friend keeps suggesting to pop in at 8am before work which just fills me with dread and anxiety.
Every weekend morning the phone goes, it's always family wanting to swing by or want picked up from somewhere or wants to sit in the house for hours. I cannot do it.
Since having the baby my anxiety has got worse and worse and I just cannot cope with dh family constant demands to visit or make last minute plans.
My baby will go to nursery so will be social with other babies and my teenage daughter is completely opposite to me and thrives off company, which I find exhausting facilitating but I do it because I know she needs it and it's normal. I would never keep her away from people or say no to her friends coming over etc.
I just wish people would make solid plans and that way I can mentally prepare for things and plan my day around them.
Nothing worse when I start doing things and someone texts wanting to pop in, it disrupts my whole day.
Mother in law often wants to pop in after work at 5pm when I'm in the throws of dinner, tidying and bath times.
I also hate asking anyone for any help or pitching in. I won't do it.
I dunno if I'm just weird or have some sort of condition but I just feel so anxious.
The phone rang at 9.30 this morning whilst I was showering, people wanting to pop in and I was totally unprepared and dh wasn't home. The group chat goes off all day ,is anyone free to help blah blah...is anyone free to do this and that....because I'm on maternity leave everyone asks me for stuff all the time or just turn up to the house.
When I go back to work I will be saying a total no. Because I do not have the head space for any of it.