He’s disappeared after third date

[Datinglifesucksbigtime]

Mixed signals - hate them!

I guess I am struggling to get my head around how you can have such an amazing date - fireworks - and the guy disappears?

I am new to online dating and I know I need a thick skin because people come and back, and men stand you up, leave you hanging, ghost etc.

I am quite hurt by this one. 😢

You’ve said it yourself, you need to develop the hide of a rhino.

I’m sorry this happened to you and it sounds awful but also be wary of any date like fireworks as it could have been them love bombing you to reel you in.

No love bombing. Just a really good time, the sexual tension was crazy. We were out for 6-7 hours.

I know he had a great time as well. He sent messages the next day.

Looking back, I think he must have known on the date that he wasn’t that interested which is what I’m struggling with.

He said online dating wasn’t working for him, he had been dating for years, and his mum suggested a professional match making service. That’s the only sign otherwise he was keen, attentive etc.

Something came up for him, so I thought maybe I wouldn’t hear from him for a few days but it’s been over a week now so I guess that’s it.

I would look at this as though you've had a lucky escape.

....next

Did you sleep with him? (If you don't mind me asking!)

Billslills No I didn’t - but we were getting very close to that. If he had stayed in touch and lined up the next date, I think we might have done! So I guess he just wasn’t feeling it or met someone else.

It's sad but you really can't believe it is anything until they prove they are reliable and words match actions. Keep dating but don't let your guard down too soon or let your emotions fool you there is a future until it's been established.