Extension to orders against stbx

[Ithinkitstime]

Hi All,

I'm trying to divorce an abusive ex.

Last January I managed to get an one year occupancy order against him and he also had to swear an undertaking to the court not to harass, intimidate or threaten me. At the time, the judge said that he felt a year would give us time to divorce and move on from each others' lives.

Because he is fighting everything every inch of the way, the divorce is still ongoing. I have applied for an extension to the orders above. For this I have been given a date in January when I need to go to court and give evidence.

Has anyone here been through the extension to orders process? If yes, what kinds of evidence did you produce and how much was needed?
What does the day in court itself look like? Mine will be via cloud video platform. We have been told it will last 45 minutes.

The ex was unprepared last time, but this time he will have created a raft of evidence as he knows what's coming. I'm scared again, but trying hard not to be...

What exactly is he fighting every inch? You just get divorced. He doesn't get to say no.

Well funnily enough he did try to do that initially. Said it was his right and he was contesting it etc.

I have nisi now, but he wouldn't agree to a financial resolution. Domestic abuse meant we couldn't do mediation either. He disagrees with everything and nit picks at every stage so now I'm waiting for FDR in Feb. I don't hold out much hope for success and suspect it'll go to a final hearing next summer hence the need to extend orders.

I wish very much you did just get divorced, but not always that easy.

Did you get an extension?

Yes I did. I did produce more evidence and I'd say that was necessary and useful. The judge was great. Made the nex feel like he was in control whilst still making sure that I was safe. He also reiterated the rules so that nex couldn't question them.
A good result.
This was an online hearing and I was left online with the nex on screen by myself for a considerable amount of time before proceedings began. As it's all recorded we obviously both didn't speak but that was hard.