Please help :(

[southeastlady]

On Thursday night just before I was about to leave for my night shift my husband told me he wasn’t happy and would be moving out.

We have an 8 year old child.
Absolutely shocked.
On Friday night he stayed at his brothers house, last night he slept in the spare room. Not sure if he’s moving out today or even where he’s going.

My Dad died 5 months ago and I must admit I did cry on Thursday when he told me, but trying not to do that again but very difficult.

I have the added worry that I work in the emergency services which is shift work that involves early, late and night shifts so with my husband gone I have no one

Feeling very lost in life :(

Much the same. He sleeps in the spare room now

Whwn he's gone and paying maintenance, could you possibly think about getting a live in au pair? That might solve the childcare issue.

You've said he's miserable, and that you'd help him go if not for childcare needs, so what's the problem with him sleeping in the spare room? Does he know you only want him there for childcare? Maybe he is unhappy.

Both of you sound unhappy tbf. Maybe it's time to look at your options.

I did think of an au pair but are they still available after brexit?

Oh gosh sorry, I don't know, I'm not British so not familiar with how that kind of thing has been affected.