Red flags?

[rosegoldJune]

So met a man on a dating app just over 18mths ago, got on well, lived a distance (hours drive away) so saw each other once a week which were happy with, he met my kids eventually, I’ve moved area so he is closer now (not on purpose, due to work) but I just see red flags all the time, for instance I’ve never met his family, they live near to him, he is going a bonfire party at his parents tonight, I’m sat at home like Billy no mates sulking 😂 people have said a few times he is seeing someone else or has a wife/girlfriend, he does msg & FaceTime me at work on his break, his friends are sometimes in the background, I split with him a few wks ago, blocked him off everything (childish I know) he then stood outside my house for me to come out, was crying asking for us to start again, I stupidly said yes, in public he grabs my hand if any men are about, if takes me out he is always saying men are looking at me (I genuinely never notice) sometimes he can be very, very overwhelming, tells me he loves me, misses me, numerous times a day, rings, txts me too. I am stupid I really am & this relationship is the first one since the collapse of my marriage 20 plus yrs so I suppose I’m just starting out again & I’m useless 😂

Do you have a question?

It looks like you're continuing a relationship with a man who makes you uncomfortable in a variety of ways. It doesn't matter if you call them 'bad signs' or 'red flags' or 'habits' or 'flying fandoodles': you don't like the way he behaves.

So why haven't you left him?

Too many red flags. He sounds domineering, jealous. Throw him back.

Well have you asked him?

what reason has he given for not integrating you into his life properly?

If you’ve never asked then you need to ask.

I can't imagine being with someone for 18 months and not meeting their family. Why are you even entertaining this total time-waster?

Listen to your gut and throw him
back

This. Plus the fact that youve not met his family would have me questioning thjngs.

Thank you everyone, I’ve decided cut all ties with him, it’s too much I just feel I’m being used constantly, he kept saying would meet his family but then made excuses, had enough I’m better off on my own.

Cut ties, and actually do it. Don't respond to him, don't be manipulated by his teenage style crying outside your house, or promises that you can finally have the privilege of saying hi to his mum.

Its hurtful but you have done the right thing. Too many red flags. Be kind to yourself.