Pregnant - help!

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I slept my dd's dad - we aren't together and it was REALLY stupid as we've had a lot of issues and I can't actually stand him! I took the morning after pill and it's failed....

What do I do?

I have a mortgage on my own, I work from home full time - how would I cope?

Do I go ahead with this pregnancy?

I have wanted another baby for so long, (I'm 34) and panic I won't meet the right one - although he is DEF NOT the right one!!!

Argh, I'm so stuck - why was I so stupid?

How do you feel emotionally about having another baby? How will you work and have a baby? Another relationship is going to be put off by a long way.
It's a difficult one if you've always wanted another, it depends on if you can cope with another one on your own.

Have you told him?

Your contraception failed, that isn't your fault. Don't blame yourself.

Your baby will have the same father as your DD, which I think would make things easier overall. You don't know if you'll get pregnant in the future, whereas you are right now.

Congratulations- I hope that's what you want to hear. ❤️

I feel sick! But my head is in a spin.... how would I leave my baby with him every other weekend! I'm really torn... this is horrible! I've always wanted my daughter to have a full sibling, I recently lost my mum and realised how important this is. But then how on earth would I work will a baby at home
full time! I don't have childcare around me no, not now my mum isn't here anymore x

It is always better if the baby has the same Dad.
I would count this as a blessing given what you have told us. Congratulations.

I feel so guilty for even having this conversation as I know how lucky I am to be pregnant (I appreciate some long to be in the position) but I am just so scared and unsure! I wouldn't trust him with a baby alone - he's a drinker etc! Arrghhh how have I been so thoughtless and even ended up in this position?! I don't want him to be my dd example of how men should be and I owe it to her to find someone who sets the right example of how a women should be treated!

You want this baby; your daughter will have a sibling. The father of both children needs to up his game though and start behaving like a parent.

Look into childcare options now and start planning for how you will navigate this situation. Talk to friends, family, schoolgate mums for ideas and support.

Good luck!