Would gay men use the term 'Girl' for their hetero men friends/colleagues?

[CatAndHisKit]

Could anyone enlighten me on this, as I know that many gay men call other gay 'girl' when being nice, but would they use that for a hetero colleague/friend especially within art-related professions?

I'm asking as I'd like to suss out if a man I know is gay - who was perviously in LTR hetero relationship (not hugely long but serious) - he was called that twice by gay friends on SM in a friendly/jokey context which he engaged with in a happy way. Is it normal to use the word with hetero friends? Or is he trying to subtly prepare people that he is in fact gay/bi?

What's the end game here. I mean whatever this man's sexuality, why is it on your mind?

Of course there isn't a specific word that automatically means this or that. "Girrrrl" is popularised in the media, people have fun saying it.

Why does it matter to you if he's gay? Tbh I don't think you can base it on what people call him! It's a bit of a reach thinking he's got people to use that phrase on social to soft launch his sexual orientation.

I have friends who call everyone "girl" on social media and in real life. We're all late 20s or early 30s though, I think it's quite common as a sort of slang.

yes that's what I meant - is 'Girrl' used just for fun towards hetero men too, or is it a no-no, and only used for gay men and women friends?
Well as it's in r-ships you could probably guess that I'm attracted to him hence wanting to find out - I want to either move on (if he's gay) or possibly ask him out. He wasn't single before, but I'm not sure if he;s trying to hint he's gay.

If you're attracted to him, ask him out. If he's gay, he'll say no?

Spooky that's juat what I'm asking - he's older but those friends are 30s, maybe 20s. I just want to know it's fine and jokey towards hetro friends - and not unusual/strange. No I didn't mean he asked them to use it- more that he enjoyed and responded to those posts - I did think he was just having fun and less likely hinting, it's more would his gay friends do it if they thought he wasn't gay.

I'd think they'd treat him the way they treat all their friends, and if they call them girrrrrl in a jokey fashion then they would him too. I don't think it would indicate that he was gay.
Ask him out whatever the case, he'll be flattered either way I'm sure.

Thanks, Choco. Its complicated as I ve asked him out (not directly on a date as such) a while ago not knowing that he had a long tern GF. I'm not 100% sure he hasn't got a new partner now so don't want to make a fool of mysef twice! I know he can say 'no' if he's not gay but I wanted to rrule that out at least.

Well if he had a long term gf before he's either hetero or bi.

He's clearly interested in dating/being with girls so that wouldn't be a reason to not ask him out

Whether he's interested or not is unlikely to be related to his sexuality

blurer well there are married men who come out later - Philip Schofield for one. He's not 'macho' by any means, and I like that. Anyway I think i'll wait for a bit, I think we have a vibe but I may not be his type (he does know I was interested before).

Hi I’m gay and never call men that. I know it happens but not why .

My extensive experience here is the amazing Randy Rainbow and he definitely uses the term girrrl to refer to straight men in his songs. Admittedly sarcastically but he is a satirist!

In this case, however, you've already asked him out, so he knows you are/were interested. If he's now available I think the next move is up to him. It would be too weird to ask him out again, surely?