One relationship tip that actually worked for you

[Thinkingswillbebetter]

It is Friday, weekend ahead, let's relax and talk about something that actually worked. :)

One tip only please to make it more fun. 🤗

Fully engage in conversations, put the phone down, turn off the tv, face them, talk and give them the same attention you would have like it is the first 6 months of a relationship. I have been married for 23 years, Dh is my best mate.

Don't go to bed on a argument.
Make sure you have a laugh together at least once a day.
Don't be afraid to use them as a human radiator when it's cold at night

works for us been together 15 years!

Say one thing you really appreciate the other has done within the last week.

Sex is key. Not necessarily frequently, quality over quantity.

Date yourself.

Sounds wanky, but what it means is treat yourself how you’d treat someone you’re dating, and prioritise your needs. So, instead of “I’m not going to tell this man how I feel in case it scares him off, so I’ll continue to accept uncertainty and breadcrumbs” you’d think, “I know what I want, and I’m going to ask for it, and if he’s scared off by that it’s no reflection on my worth, he simply isn’t the right person”.

once I started giving myself this level of respect and being upfront about my needs I met someone who’s possibly the nicest person I’ve ever met and meets all of my needs.

Remember that sex is important, the activity that binds you and sets this relationship apart from any other relationship in your lives. If it slides, because of illness, babies etc, talk about it, share your mutual regret, look forward together to getting back on track

We have a no phones in the evening rule which works really well.

Presume the best instead of the worst.

Sex is the glue that binds the relationship together.

Listen to each other.

Touch each other - not in a sexual way, but brush their hand or stroke their arm when your sitting next to each other. Or put your hand on their back as you squeeze past in a narrow space.

Laugh together.

Be nice. We always try to think how we can make each others day better. We're a team.

Don't let something fester if it's bothering you

Don't bicker.
Argue when needed,fine but not snipy childish shit.It kills a relationship.

When either of us wants a moan (about anything) we always ask one another, do you just want comfort or do you want an opinion/advice

Unwanted opinions cause arguments lol

Marry someone with lower domestic standards than yourself 😀

As well as all the good advice above, being polite - saying please and thank you, and showing appreciation for what they do over and above the normal stuff. It works for DH and me - been together for years.

For both parties, equally: making the other person happy is your job

Be brave and actually communicate. When something bothers you, tell them. Even if it sounds silly.

On the receiving end - if something ‘silly’ bothers them them then be respectful of that. It might not ‘matter’ but it matters to them and shows respect.

This is brilliant yet so hard.

I think it's the way you communicate too, no you always or you never but instead I feel, I would like less of or more of xyz. We always ask each other, is there anything I can do that would make your life easier?

Important to have quality time together.

Also let them have space don't be clingy.

In disagreements, it's not you Vs him, it's you and him Vs the issue.

Kiss passionately whenever you can.

Why is sex the "glue"? Sex can be had with people outside the relationship, and most people have had sex with people who weren't their husbands/partners.

Don't have one.