Anyone else hate dating and prefer being single?

[dawdlingdeirdre]

Don't know what i want from this post but does anyone else feel they cannot be bothered with dating anymore?

I am 39 but in all honestly i cannot be arsed with it. Its not fun, full of weirdos, time consuming and id rather focus on myself and hobbies.

I made a pros and cons list to a relationship vs being single and to be honest i think there were more cons to being in a relationship.

I enjoy my own company and i suppose if i met the right person id consider a relationship BUT i don't believe in searching for it. I find people in general bloody hard work and a pain in the arse!

Anyone else feel the same?

Yes, absolutely. I never dated multiple people and found the concept confusing and weird. I was always happy being single.

Me!

I tried OLD for a few year but I always found it depressing and a complete waste of time: liars, cheats, casual sex seekers, weirdos, a scary number of alcoholics, and full-on women-haters.

Most of the dates were ever more boring than job interviews and if it progressed to anything further sex was mechanical, immature and boring (porn has a lot to answer for). The whole thing also felt fake and shallow and frankly depressing.

I have no interest in dating anymore and I am simply focusing on living my life and being happy on my own.

If I came across a genuine nice guy of course I would not say no to a relationship but if past history is any indication those type of men are in the minority these days.

I was like this throughout my 20s. On the rare occasion I bothered dating formally it was awkward and/or annoying. Never even led to the kind of decent one-night stands I found when I went to house parties or out clubbing. I barely wanted a relationship anyway and was very content to be indefinitely single.

A devastatingly handsome, intelligent, kind, funny man fell into my lap when I was 30 and that was that. If anything happened to DP, God forbid, I wouldn't bother looking for another relationship. Would probably eventually fire up the apps for casual sex.

I was single for 12yrs after relationship with father of DC. A lot of that was because we remained on very friendly terms (not sexual) and so almost felt like we were still together. Things changed in that respect last summer and then an ex colleague asked me out in November. It was going great, apart from the fact time with him was hard as he was a single dad with 100% custody. That was meant to have changed, but his ex wife isn’t playing ball so we are pretty much over / on a break, who knows as trying to have a conversation with him is blooming impossible!! I think he’s having some kind of mental health crisis, but again hard to know properly due to lack of communication. I want to move on but I need that final conversation for closure. Hopefully finally next week it will happen after him blowing hot and cold for ages. It’s made me realise why I liked being single. I feel so hurt but all of this and taken for a ride given he was confessing undying love then seemed to disappear off the face of the earth!

But it’s made me realise I do want a relationship. I was debating OLD just literally before he came back into my life (we nearly dated pre pandemic) and I’m debating trying that once I’ve got this closure on him. But part of me just thinks why can’t I be happy being single again. I think a lot of it is because the sex was amazing and I don’t want to go back to being celibate - but I don’t want the heartache relationships bring. A FWB wouldn’t work though as I tend to get close to people easily. Who knows! My head is battered and I really wish I’d never gone into the office that day I saw him again as I’m definitely feeling a bit battered and bruised.

sorry that felt like a bit of a therapy post! Help for moving on appreciated!

Yes.

I used to love dating. The anticipation, thinking what to wear, where to go, making an effort. Fresh conversation. Different foods. And I love dancing.

But men are just such a let down. I can't take any more dishonest, lazy, selfish, manipulative men. I get much more pleasure from meeting up with old friends and having brunch. Or running with a club.

I have a ds and hobbies and a career so life is busy. I'm not sat at home doing nothing. I'd still like an intimate trusting relationship but they don't seem to be possible any more which is a shame.

Yea the thought of dating being in sad singles nights waiting to be chatted up, like cheers tv show,

Coming across one or two Arseholes or Creeps along the way too,

Having to dress a certain way to acctract men's eyes

Not a chance

Fuck that,

Oh and going out in the cold 🥶 night to see this parade of chineless wonders ect

I can't be Arsed bothered

When I read mumsnet threads about someone who husband or Partner is crap it makes me think I am ok I prefer single single to that kind of shit really

You can feel single even if your in a relationship the wrong type dynamics too

I have always loved being single