Genuinely curious

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Hi, I recently went on a few dates with a woman until she said she felt it was just friends and nothing more. She's recently moved back to the UK and said herself she wants to travel more before settling down and is going away in a few weeks until the new year. On the other hand I've recently returned to uni and can't just up and leave. We are in different places right now and I totally agree with her saying we should be friends. She told me she would still like to hang out and go on walks with me and my dog when she gets back from travelling. I think she will probably never follow through with that but I'm curious of a woman's view on this. Does she genuinely want to be friends? I know time will tell but I'm impatient. For what its worth I don't want to be friends to hang around in the hope of a relationship sprouting but I'm new to the area and I got on well with her chatting and it would be nice to have her as a friend.

I think she may be letting you down gently in the hope that whilst she is away you'll get over your disappointment. It's a kind thing on her part rather than being blunt and hurtful.

You're in a good position. She's given you free range to date who you want and she can't say anything. Then when she comes back go on that dog walk if you both so wish. Don't hang about for hope of anything more.

Yes she probably means it right now but nobody can predict whether it’ll actually come about in the future.

Sorry Mr Impatient but you’ll just have to go with the flow and deal with whatever life throws at you and, in the meantime, live your life.

That’s all the rest of the world is doing. Just living our lives and hoping things pan out alright for us in the future.

She sounds as though she would like to be friends but time and distance does change things. Who knows, she may pop up occasionally in your life and may not. In the meantime enjoy yourself and meet some new people.

I think she will probably never follow through with that but I'm curious of a woman's view on this.
I'm curious why you feel that a woman's view would differ from your own, but what I'm downright itching to know is why you think women all share the same view.
We don't have a collective consciousness we all consult to arrive at a single viewpoint (or one that is automatically, mysteriously, different to a man's).

Does she genuinely want to be friends?
Er ... we don't know.
Not because we are women, btw.
Because we don't know her. You do.

I know time will tell but I'm impatient.
Impatient for what? She's going abroad, she just wants to be friends, that may or may not happen ... it's up to HER isn't it? You feeling either patient or impatient will make no odds as to how that pans out. She probably doesn't even know herself - you've only known each other 5 minutes.

Start developing other friendships locally. Enjoy life. Go on other dates.
And when women back you off with "just friends" & "going travelling" noises - HEAR THEM.
Anything else is boundary-crashing. Including recruiting other women for tips on how to make her change her mind ... because be honest, that is where you wanted this to go, isn't it ..?

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Nah - you speak as an unmitigated twat Steve.
A parboiled, dyed-in-the-wool, twat.

HTH

Oh, Steve. What ARE you doing?

Why are you here if you hate women so much?

Because real life women are scary, so Steve likes to come here & act the sophisticated older chap with his mansplaining pretensions.

You can bet your arse nobody was clamouring to shag him when he was pushing 30.
Or 20, 40, or 50 ...

Ooops! Steve deleted.

Aaaaw! Poor misunderstood Steve ...