Anxiety/overthinking

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Anyone have any tips on how to stop overthinking, I don't know why but all of a sudden I just keep thinking my boyfriend is cheating. I've always been bad but it's got even worse. Previous relationship I was cheated on and I think that's partly the reason? We're having our first child together and I feel like I'm ruining the relationship by assuming he is. I have no reason to think stuff as he lets me on his phone whenever, I have a Face ID on his phone and everytime I've looked on his phone there's nothing on there? My ex done the same but somehow he hid it by deleting all the evidence so I convince myself this is what my bf is doing. Please help as I don't want to ruin the relationship as everything in the relationship is perfect apart from me overthinking a lot.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. You have to remember that not all men cheat so don’t tar him with the same brush and spoil a relationship otherwise it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You have no reason to suspect him. You just have to give yourself I talking to!

Though I do understand once you have been cheated on you worry

You've checked and you've found nothing. That should put your mind at rest. Our minds are so good at making up stories, perhaps you have an over-active imagination?
Alternatively, there are some people who never, ever check their partners' pockets or phones, then one day out of the blue they decide to, for no apparent reason, and find something immediately.

Your bf is NOT your ex.

Not all men cheat, would ever want to.

He wouldn't give you all the access to his phone if he was, he wouldn't.

Just try to remember your bf is not your ex.

Try to enjoy your time together before little one turns up. Then enjoy your time and a new family.

If it makes you feel better and helps to let it go have a plan. A back-up plan if, such a big IF, he ever does. Keep your own money, always have a fund to move out and on, don't let you and your baby's happiness be solely determined by some mere man. You are a queen growing a life inside you, he is the one whom is lucky enough to persuade you to do this with his small contribution of some genetic material. Find your own self worth. You are going to be a mum, a love you haven't experienced yet, he would be an utter fool to lose you. Believe all this, don't let your ex's actions destroy your happiness he was never worth it and he's still not worth it now.

Medication and therapy.

@Bedazzled22 I know. It's like my head convinces me that if I don't see anything it means his hid it. I think I need to really work on building trust as it's affecting me plus affecting my relationship thanks for replying

@Cheminaufaules I know that should be enough to put my mind at rest but then my brain convinces me he's either got other accounts or that he just clears it! I wish my brain didn't convince me so much lol. I don't want to keep having to go through his phone though as it's not fair on him. I have stopped looking and I think that's maybe why I've got a bit worse because I haven't had a look in a while.

@frozendaisy thankyou so much for your reply. I did get better but I think some days my ex still affects me. I wish it didn't as it's been over 3 years since my ex but some days it really gets to me. I do have backup plans either way because recently I don't think the relationship has been working so whatever happens I'm all sorted. Maybe it's all the hormones lol😂 thankyou so much for that reply tho I really needed to hear that :)