Mum’s side family vs Dad’s side family

[Rainraingoaway11]

I come from a country that people feel “lucky” when they have girls as girls stay always close to their parents and take care of them when they get older and have close bonds regardless or them getting married, having babies etc.

However, when they have boys they are “unlucky” in a way as boys tend to be more career focused, travelers etc. and they get married and then their mum get “substituted” by his wife and if their wife don’t “approve” their mum it’s not going to end well. And boys don’t take care of parents that much when parents get old and need help.

Also as grandparents the ones from mum’s side are the lovelier ones vs the ones from dad’s side who are not that present and they don’t have that special bond with grandchildren as mums prefer children to spend time with her parents rather than the in laws.

Is it the same in the Uk? Please tell me not and that this is a thing from the past!!!

I don't think I'm the UK one sex is considered luckily than the other, both girls and boys are equally appreciated but there is an old British saying
"A daughter is a daughter all your life a son is a son until he get a wife "
Which is basically the same thing as your culture!
I think as a rule of thumb often daughters remain closer to their mums, and maternal grandmother's are often more involved in grandchildren and daughters are more hands on when their parents are elderly and need care.
Not sure why. I have a son and daughterd and hope I can remain equally close to them all but I've noticed my daughters bring their BF home a lot more than my son brings his GF. No idea why.

Oh what you said is really interesting! I didn’t know there was a British saying which passes the same message across…

I have a daughter and a son too, although they are still very very young. My mum told me recently “at least you have one daughter” , your boy won’t be yours for long-don’t expect much from him when you get old … and I felt very sorry about my baby boy and sad :-(

I hope I can remain equally close to both of them like you said x