Practical tips to get over a man

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Usual bullshit story fell to hard for a man who is now completely unavailable for a relationship/needs to work out what he wants etc. I know I sound a bit dry about it but I'm just trying to get through and not drive myself crazy over it. It has ended I can't do anything about it. But I can do something about my reactions and how to heal from this.

Delete his number, hide his social media, and do all the things you know make you feel better - exercise, hobbies etc. You can do it!

How long did you know him? If it was only a very short time I would look to the underlying cause.

Sorry hit send to soon and be single and focus on yourself for a while that was meant to say

A holiday, plan things with your friends, have a fling, keep busy.

The fastest way to get over one is under the next

Change stuff is my advice, shake up your routine, do something different, rearrange your furniture, buy new clothes (if you can afford it!), basically give yourself something new to shift your focus and give you a boost. Think about what you would do for your sister/best friend to cheer them up while they healed from a break up and do those things for yourself. And remember these feelings are temporary, you will heal and move on and you will be ok

Delete him everywhere and take each day at a time. Keep as busy as you can. Keep your mind off him. Time will heal. Do not text him or you are back to square one

Easiest way to get over one man is to get under another.

Train your thought process to I don't need/want a man who doesn't want me.

There is more to life than that one man and you still have your pick of plenty more.

@eztiger great minds. Or we have the same nan, as I got that bit of advice from mine.

Yup. Reframe it that you were spared a potential arsehole. He wasn't the one so he has created an opportunity for the one that is. And then get back out there... and let the universe know that you're in the right space for the right one to come along

This your head knows it is right emotions can take a while to catch on.

if you have a vibrator use it!

Focus on your feelings. Let yourself feel your anger, sadness etc. Recognise any thought patterns attached to it - especially any black and white statements like ‘always’ or ‘never’.

Anything else is just denial/avoidance and will keep you stuck.

Lots of physical activity really helps. A friend of mine got over the break up of a seven year relationship by taking lots of dance and exercise classes

I always find a project really good.

So yes delete everywhere, even block then you aren't worrying every time your phone goes ping.

Get into a good podcast, I hugely got into True Crime when my marriage broke down. I then decorated a lot 😂 headphones on, painting / wallpapering etc.

Gym / walking / running.

Yes acknowledge your feelings and read anything where people have been in your position before. Realise it’s a normal if uncomfortable place to be.
I like “The Rules” by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. They basically tell you how to find Mr Right. Very much part of that is ruling out Mr Wrong. By the end I always felt empowered.

Phone your friends and arrange a night out.
Book a holiday.
Treat yourself to something you will love, like concert tickets or a pampering session.
Be kind to yourself.
Tell yourself you have dodged a bullet.

Your nan is clearly a total legend!

Thank you so much! I think getting under the next might be a bit too soon but I would appreciate feeling wanted again. My confidence has taken a bit of knock. I like the idea of changing things up. I might get a few new clothes and maybe look at a new hair colour. Nothing too extreme just something to make me feel good again. I was hoping to go dancing this week but didn't. I will definitely go next week.

Remember that you were happy and had a life before you met him. Your happiness is not dependent on him being there - even if it was nice.

if he was not the one - how happy you can be now that you know rather than 5 years down the line. The right person for you is out there and this has made space for him. Get yourself some hobbies a new hair cut and get out there again x