Anonymous texting 'texttasy' - should I worry?

[notsureifiambeingsilly]

Not sure if I'm just worrying over nothing here. Boyfriend left his work laptop open and I went to Google something quickly, and recently visited was a website called Texttasy. I was curious so checked the history and he had previously googled 'how to send anonymous texts' and been on a few similar sites.

Just don't get what reason he would need to be googling and doing this... am I overreacting?

Just to clarify this is a website for sending anonymous messages not text fantasy or something which was what I thought upon first seeing it! But why would he need or want to.. it just seems off to me!

It could be anything from pranking a friend to anonymously whistleblowing some information to a work manager. What are your concerns, can you define them?

Cheating... hiding something from me...

If it was pranking a friend he would likely tell me as usually shares that kind of stuff. Doubt he would be whistleblowing on someone. But I appreciate it could have a completely innocent reason behind it.

Before he did have profiles on dating sites though out of 'curiosity' so my spidey senses are tingling. No idea how I can dig a bit more, I thought we had moved past this stuff so really hope it's innocent.

Well, it’s unlikely he’d be sending his OW anonymous texts so I wouldn’t have thought cheating.

If he has form though and you still don’t trust him then I’d question why you’re still with him anyway.

Nobody has a dating profile out of curiosity.. you know that.

It sounds like you snooped because you don't trust him, because he isn't trustworthy.

Yeah I know he really messed up before but I thought it was all in the past, and maybe it is. Whenever I've had the opportunity to see his phone I've never found any evidence otherwise. It's been almost two years since that drama.

It just seems a strange thing to do and makes me want to dig a bit further, but equally I feel bad doing so!

Doubt he’d be sending a woman anonymous texts if he was having it off with her. More likely would be a prank, or revealing something to someone whilst wanting to remain anonymous.

Thank you. I hope so. The only thing I thought was if they got caught and he was trying to contact her anonymously

I've seen a few people online asking why, after getting on so well with someone they've been chatting to anonymously, have they pulled away from them when they reveal who they are. So they are using it for testing the waters with someone who they are too afraid to speak directly to. You can also send anonymous picture messages.

Some people have said they use it to send anonymous messages after they've caught an std, but if that was the case with him then he'd have to let you know too. Or just generally informing someone of information they'd rather do anonymously.

Others say that it's for admitting to and getting help with problems they are to embarrassed to admit they have like alcohol and even depression.

Pranking friends.

Harassment.

Whistleblowing.

It's another way of secretly doing things, so I'm not surprised it makes you uncomfortable.

Thank you. I think that's the thing.. it could be totally innocent but given the past I have concerns. I'll have to trust him on this one.. and just keep alert for now.

We have been getting on so well lately, I hope it's nothing dodgy.

Before he did have profiles on dating sites though out of 'curiosity' so my spidey senses are tingling. No idea how I can dig a bit more, I thought we had moved past this stuff so really hope it's innocent.

They ALL say they're only on dating/live porn/escort sites out of "curiosity".
It's bullshit.
You are already wondering how you can 'dig' to find out more so you are either scared to ask him, or know he will lie. Both of those reasons are shit, & you must be feeling insecure & horrible in this relationship.

What do you think would happen if you just asked him about it?

I'm not sure to be honest. But I don't want to let him know I'm suspicious and possibly lead him to hide other things that may be going on.

Also I didn't intentionally go sniffing out his history and don't want to look like I'm monitoring him as if that hadn't popped up I'd not be concerned.