How would you word this?

[AFunnyFeeling]

I'll keep this brief...ish

Had a first date last weekend, seemed to go very well. This was following a couple of weeks of daily messaging beforehand.
Next day, lovely messages etc, really complimentary, how much he enjoyed it and wanted to meet again. I then instigated messages for next couple of days. Since then, radio silence. Not heard from him in almost a week now as I'm not going to instigate contact every time.

Clearly he's not feeling it. But I'm tired of hanging on to hear the inevitable. How do I word a message to him acknowledging said "not feeling it" whilst maintaining my dignity?? Just think he's being quite rude tbh

(Trying to give a feeling that I'm not bothered, but actually I am 😔)

Some people treat other people like dirt.

The smart thing to do is when you spot one, remove them from your life.

There's no need for all the soul searching. You didn't know him. Now you do.

The item was his responsibility to either take care of or arrange to collect. It's completely nothing to do with you and not your problem.

Well he will be wrong in this case.

Silence is golden.

When he asks to meet to get his watch back, say you have put it in an envelope behind a flowerpot on your front porch and he can pick it up when he’s passing. Or that you have dropped it into the police station with his name on it.

When he retrieves the envelope he won’t feel too smug!

Make sure you are not there!

Thank you! I think this sounds like a fine plan!
If anyone is interested I'll report back when I've had all the bullshit excuses x

Or thrust it in his hand as you trot past looking gorgeous "on your way to a hot date, bye!" (then go round to your mate's).

I had a wobble after I was treated like this. It really isn't nice. Do you happen to know where his family members live? Could you send a male friend to drop it round? Or know his place of work and send it there.
I promise, the sooner you cut ties the better you'll feel. Why have him living in your head for the next three weeks. The watch has to go!

Forgot to say, the words are:

Hey, I'm going to be away the weekend you're back, can you give me an address to send/drop round the watch.
Thanks x

Let him know you're not available for when he decides to come back.

Oo, that's a good idea!
I should have said home city, not town. His family live about 7 miles away but I could ask for his family's address to drop it in.

This bloody thing is pissing me off!

My guess is he’s ghosting you cos he went on a date with someone else where he lives and they hit it off, or an ex came back into his life. I’d just match his energy and not give him the satisfaction/ego boost of getting another message from you, I’m sure even if it was about the watch, in his head he’ll be all “aha, see I’m so great she’s still trying to chase me and using the watch as an excuse” 🙄
Honestly don’t even bother contacting him, I’d bet my last tenner he’ll pull a ‘zombie’ and be in touch when he’s next in town and fancies a shag, using the watch as an excuse. But don’t fall for it! Keep your self respect intact and when he does ask for it back (and see if you’re around for “a coffee/dinner and a shag), you can very matter of factly return it (looking fab) but politely decline him as you’re actually busy that night/week/year being wined and dined by a man of much higher calibre who treats you like a priority and not an option, just as you deserve!

When he messages asking for his watch back:
New phone, who dis?

He will be in touch even without you having the watch it’s all mind games and you not messaging him will bother him and make him feel inadequate so sorry for how your feeling I have been there Infact my one tried 3 times to get in contact last few months I say I hope your well but I no longer want to communicate

Yeah I think you’re just hometown evening company or a shag (he’s hoping) that he’ll get in touch with a couple days before each of his returns to line you up in his schedule

If you don’t want it, bin him off

Expensive watch? Could be the start of a tinder swindle. If he asks to borrow any money and claims you don’t have to worry because you have his expensive watch sat with you, then no doubt it’s a fake 😂

No exit message, no need.

I wouldn't be happy being lumped with someone's expensive watch to look after indefinitely though, whom I barely knew. If it gets accidentally damaged or isn't working when he gets round to collecting it, he might be a prick about it.

I'd text, say 'please can you give me an address to send the watch to? I'm not happy to keep hold of it for weeks. Alternatively I can give it to the lost property at XX police station'.

No point leaving an untied thread.