Coping with break up

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So I was told last week after nearly 4 years with my partner that he couldn’t give me what I wanted and was finding it to hard to juggle our relationship/his family so on……. I am devastated even though I think I knew we had no future….. but I can’t eat or function….. what can I do I think about him constantly….. and have to fight messaging him constantly!!

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. It is horrible. I am enduring a relationship break up too and I feel utterly sick!

You have to try to eat, I know it is really hard but get yourself some smoothies or yoghurts or soup and just eat a little bit to keep up your strength. I have managed to nibble a rich tea

Do NOT text him under any circumstances. You might think it will make you feel better but it will not. You want answers but there are none really.

I have found myself wanting to ask questions about this and that during our break up and then taking to a moment to realise that it doesn’t actually matter and the answer is not going to make me feel better. However it’s natural to try and understand and process it.

We have to remember that this time will pass. I hope you have some good friends in real life to help support you?

Write down a list of all his shortcomings and all the ways he's hurt and failed you. Read it whenever you are tempted to message him. Use anger as a motivator to push through.

Download tinder, put up a few good pics and enjoy the ego boost of having matches pour in. Nothing further than that because you are too fragile to date and online dating is brutal anyway. But it's great to show how many men out there would desire you.

Do whatever you need to distract yourself. Clean, redecorate, binge watch series, take up pilates... anything you've wanted to do but have been putting off.

Put away all pictures and stuff that reminds you of him. Out of sight out of mind.

Hurts like a batch, but you'll pull through and you'll be grateful he didn't waste even more years of your time. Hugs!

Like a bitch*

Amazing advice thank you, hope you are finding it easier with time? Xx

Thank you it really helps to hear all this positive advice! X