Relationship worse at time if the month.

[SuspiciouslyGrouchy]

I think my hormones might be driving me a bit crazy.

My relationship is ok, not perfect, but no big red flags. Mostly we muddle along fine. However sometimes I feel inexplicably miserable about the whole thing, and desperate to escape to a life of singledom. The feeling builds over a couple of days, peaks and then dissipates very quickly, leaving me wondering what ok earth I was making a fuss about. It seems to tie in with the beginning of my period, or if I get any spotting / light bleeding mid-cycle.

I’ve got an implant in so periods can be s bit all over the place, but this mood pattern seems to match up fairly reliably.

Has anyone had similar? Am I going crazy?

It’s making me really question the relationship at times, but then after a peak I feel totally fine, like we’ve never had any problems. So frustrating.

Is it the mirena coil you have? Only asking as I feel really similar. I actually feel more hormonal since having but the dr said that shouldn't be the case

@blurer no it’s the arm implant (nexplanon I think). I’ve had it in for over two years now, so due to expire in the next 6 months (ish). No problems at the beginning but these funny mood swings seem to be getting stronger and more frequent as time goes on. Maybe it’s starting to run down and it’s my own natural hormones that are making me loopy?

I'm not on any form of hormone contraceptives but I know I'm a very hormone fuelled person and not sure if it's linked but I have very heavy periods along with it. once a month I tell my poor DH I'm divorcing him. Without fail. It's not a reflection on him or our marriage it's 100% me and we have no issues but he just has to look at me on the run up to my period and it annoys me.

Thankfully he knows I don't mean it and I really can't help it I just get so irrationally irritated by everything and everyone. He's the person I'm closest to so he gets the brunt of it

It's a running joke amongst family and friends that he knows my period is due before I even do 🙈

By days 4-6 I'm normally incredibly remorseful and go the opposite way - over affectionate. Then we go back to our usual balanced life until the next month.

It's frustrating because I know I do it, I know I'm going to do it but I just can't stop it and I feel awful for it.

Thanks @lancastercourt , relieved that it’s not just me then! Your DP sounds very patient.

I’m not sure if mine is patient or just oblivious. I can definitely relate to the feelings of irritation though, the simplest things drive me up the wall.

I get really contrary too, don’t dare try and do anything nice for me on those days, whatever he has picked / done / said, I instantly don’t want. I do always like to make my own decisions, but on these days in particular I can be a totally irrational control freak.

Have you found any way to manage / moderate it at all? At the moment I’m just biting my tongue and seething in silence, but I’m not sure if that’s the best option.

Ah - I've had 30 yrs of this O/p - I hate everyone the day before my period starts- but especially DH- he just irritates the hell out of me- over the years he has learned to just leave me alone/to myself- I'm fine the day I come on and for the rest of the month - it's just one day and we manage. I get that it's my problem though - don't really speak about it other than (in the early days) to say just don't wind me up and leave me alone- and he does! It's hard to explain isn't it - my sister is the same as me - she seriously wanted to put her 1st husband under the patio every month!

Yep, can completely relate to this! I’m not on any form of contraception right now but about 3 days before I’m due I start to slowly be more and more annoyed by everything and everyone around me. I only discovered this in my early 30s and it wasn’t really an issue when I was younger.
Nothing makes it better really, and some months are worse than others. At times I take myself off to our bedroom and curl up with my iPad and leave DH and the kids to it.
it used to really scare me as all I wanted to do was leave my family during these days, but now when I know what it is i find it easier. I just have to get through the next few days and try to not listen to the crazy woman in my head! 🙈🤪 Good luck an welcome to hormones! Please let me know if your new implant makes it better! 🙏🏼

i can relate to this, I cannot stand anyone and feel like everything in my life is horrendous and nothing will ever get better, I also become enraged by small things and certain people.
I deal with it by recognising it’s not real and messaging a particular friend telling her the fake doom has descended, we make murderous plans until I feel better, then we laugh and the ridiculousness of it.

Thanks so much everyone. It’s such a relief knowing that it happens to other people. I was really starting to worry that it was a sign that the relationship wasn’t strong enough, but there’s no logical or rational reason to think that, so I think it’s just me being bonkers.

Going to hide away with a mountain of carbs until it wears off.

Sounds like peri menopause

Yup I get this. First day of period is always when I feel totally unloveable and alone and take the smallest thing to heart and can react.

Sounds like you've become aware of it, so acknowledging it should help you manage it.

I certainly manage the symptoms better since becoming aware and go 'it's not real life, it's your period talking' 😁Avoid big occasions/ potential arguments, have a hot bath, exercise and do wholesome things that comfort me, tend to feel better a few days after.