Help me keep up the banter and keep him interested!

[Notaboutthebass]

Organised a date with someone but it's not for a few weeks. We were texting for hours last night constantly back and forth, we seemed to bounce off each other and he brought out my funny side (which is rarely seen!). He literally made me laugh out loud, we seem to have quite a bit in common.
I'm not an OLD virgin and I know things fizzle out before you've even met, happened a lot with me (mainly on my side) but I'm keen to find out more and keep him interested whilst we wait for a date.
We're texting again today but strugling to find things to laugh about. I've asked him loads of stuff and visa versa.
I know we don't need to be texting every day, but with this one I'm finding that I want to.
And yes I've turned up for dates and they've been totalling different to what they portray online so I'm aware of that. Not getting my hopes up but I feel like making the effort.
What shall I talk about? Maybe we've run out of things to say.. help!

Don’t want to put a dampener on things but in my experience, witty people in messaging are not necessarily so in person. I would cut the chat and meet in real life.

Proceed with a degree of caution as text whilst quick is perhaps too easy and or lazy form of communication. Texting each other for weeks on end can build up a picture of him that may not reflect the reality.

Why is there no date for a few weeks?. With online dating you need to meet these people asap, not weeks later.

There's a bit of distance and we clash a bit with kids etc but we've both said that we're not needy in that way. I might try and squeeze it in a bit sooner though.

I agree that intense drawn out messaging between a person you’ve never met can create a false intimacy.

What are the reasons for not being able to meet up for several weeks? Bit odd to go on OLD if you’re not available?

Anyway, sorry if I’m pissing on your chips 😂
My advice when chatting is to be yourself, ask about his life, talk about yours, work, interests, stuff in the news and usually you can find things to laugh about along the way.
Dont try too hard to be funny or overthink it too much x

Me and my now fiancé had a great text relationship to start with. Because we’d chatted loads it made meeting up easier. We talked absolute crap and really hit it off. We met after two weeks or so though.

it depends on your sense of humour but you could send a funny meme or tik tok. Tell him a funny story from your life or ask him random questions. Like ‘would you rather’ type scenarios.

I met a guy old a couple of weeks ago, exchanged a couple of messages through the app but I didn’t want to stay on the app so we moved onto WhatsApp.
Our first phone conversation went really well, I liked his sense of humour and we seemed to have a lot in common. But I told him straight off that I wasn’t into messaging and making small talk with someone I didn’t know (you know, the daily ‘how are you’, ‘how has your day been’, etc). He agreed so in the week leading up to our first date we messaged twice and had a quick chat to arrange our meetup.
We both agreed that we didn’t want to spend time and money on a big date, just a quick meet to see if we liked each other and take it from there.
Yesterday we met at a station that was half way between us both, went to the second bar we walked past (because no one goes into the first bar closest to a train station 😁), had a couple of drinks but the bar closed at 9 and we were enjoying each other’s company so we went looking for somewhere to have another drink or something to eat.
We ended up in a club type bar, had a couple of cocktails and a boogie. Had a total blast!

And we are going out this week for dinner (mid week because we both have plans next weekend and don’t want to leave it too long before we see each other again 😁)

Again, we both said that we won’t be in constant contact, we are seeing each other on Wednesday anyway.

My advice to you it two fold:

• if you both can’t find the time to see each other irl for a first date then are you really ready to date or maybe find someone closer
• stop wasting your time trying to communicate with someone you don’t know, it will fizzle out. You will have used up all your small talk/getting to know you questions

We're going to meet on Thursday to see if we click. Thank you.

A few years ago I nearly fell in love with a guy over text. We had the same humour and interests, the flirting was perfect, his pics were great... a millisecond into the date I knew there would be no chemistry. Didn't fancy him in the slightest. I was gutted!

I know you know that's a possibility, so my only advice would be to hold fire on the text tennis or you'll exhaust the chit chat...or why not go for a video call? If I'd done that with this guy I'd have never gone on the date. You might video call and realise there's potential and you can get to know each other better before you meet.
Good luck. Hope it works out.

A few years ago I nearly fell in love with a guy over text. We had the same humour and interests, the flirting was perfect, his pics were great... a millisecond into the date I knew there would be no chemistry. Didn't fancy him in the slightest. I was gutted!

Oh my god
This is the worst 🥲🥲

Yeah I've had that before many times! I'm going to go easy on the texting now. I'll let you know how it goes.

I can see the pros and cons really. We're now talking about funny stories, (thanks to an above poster!) for example disaster dates. It's got the conversation going again. I've found that sometimes it helps on a first date to refer back to. I'm not generally too nervous on first dates but helps if you get a bit stuck! I do think that you need to know a bit about a person before you meet, definitely.