I don't want to cheat..

[MeringueGhost]

I separated from my partner of 10 years a year ago. We had a newborn baby and a 5 year old at the time. He said I made him unhappy, he'd never been so miserable (I had PND), he was sexting someone else while I was pregnant it turned out.
He wouldn't leave the house so me and the children moved in with family.
I started seeing someone else which probably was too quick. But he was so lovely to me, really caring and we had a good time when we were together. He was easy to get on with compared to my ex who I just seemed to constantly bicker with.
I can no longer stay with my family and I can't afford my own place with bills as they are. (I have tried)
Ex said I could move back in, and we decided to try to give it another go. He has been trying and said how sorry he was and how much he misses me.
The other guy says he will wait for me, I'm the love of his life etc and he's losing me cos he doesn't have money. It's not that though, I do want to try and give my children a family of both parents together.
I do miss the other guy a lot though. He messages most days and I can't help but reply.
What do I do?

What do you do?

Grow up!

I recognise you from your previous posts under various usernames.

You need to stay single for a while and give your poor children some stability.

You have got back together with your ex?

But still remaining in contact with the man you have been seeing for the last year?

This is really simple. Tell the one who ‘will wait for you’ that you are back with your ex then block him.

Look, your clearly not happy with your ex. New guy makes you happy so find a way to leave your ex for good and get on with your life.

Wtf. Doesn't sound like you should be with either of them. Of course you can manage a place of your own like millions of other single parents do. That's what universal credit is for!

Why is it better for your children to be back with the guy you don’t love?

You need to focus on your kids and sorting yourself out.

Sounds a mess. Separate. Spend some time focussing on your young kids and getting your head together. Stay single for at least a year whilst also doing counselling if you can. Start adulting.

I think you just need to be single for a while whilst you sort your head out. It can't be good for your kids either.

The new guy sounds like a better bet though. You actually like him. Whereas you're only wanting to get back together with your ex because you think it'll be nice for your kids. It's much better to have 2 happy parents who aren't together, than to have parents who are together but don't want to be.

Dump the ex, get back with the one you actually care about. You only moved back in with the ex as you had no where else to live and can't afford to live alone. If you didn't speak to the other guy again, would you be happy with that? What about the other way around, if you only communicated with the ex about the kids? He cheated on you at your most vulnerable, I couldn't trust him again if it was me.

You need to make your mind up, preferably being single for a while. You’re only ‘trying’ with your Ex because you needed to move back, doing it for the kids’ is the lie you tell yourself to justify it. What happens to your kids when this blows up again?

How old are you? Your decision making sounds teenage?!!!!