Petty?

[MrsSnape]

I was forced to sell my car around a year ago. When I had it my "friend" always used to ask for a lift to and from school, lifts to the shops, arrangements for me to pick her and her DS up during the holidays so we could go to the seaside etc etc...tbh it got on my nerves a bit but I never said anything.

Then I had to sell the car and I have been so lost without it, have felt isolated and trapped but my friend quickly found someone else with a car to take her to and from school and she began to go everywhere with the SIL that she supposedly hated in her car. Since I sold the car I've not spent much time with her, as I've trailed through the crap weather to school in a morning, she's cruised past me in someone elses car...when I was having trouble arranging transport to get my son to a city hall performance, she boasted that she "was ok cos she had a lift arranged".

Last summer holidays I didn't see her at all...suppose I'm not as useful without the car.

Anyway I was speaking to her on Friday and she was moaning that her sister in law does her head in and she cant stand being around her but then she's bored to death at home too and can't stand being stuck in all day. So I casually replied "I know the feeling, I can't wait until I get a car again" so she spun around and said "I can't wait until you get a car either!" and started laughing.

I just laughed at first but I was actually quite offended by it, its not the first time she's made it obvious that she uses me but maybe I'm being petty?

I don't think your being petty at all.

I have a 'freind' like the one you describe. Blanks me off until she's ran out of phone credit, Gas credit or the new series she wants me to tape on Sky One. Always on 'tap' for something.

Deliberately got my Sky box cut off cause I got so peed off with her asking me to tape stuff, I couldn't even watch what I wanted anymore! It was getting to the point where she would post a videotape thru my letterbox and not even knock on and say hello to me.
She even asked my 12 yr dd if she could 'borrow' her phone as she was out of credit. The only time she ever knocks on my door is if she wants to use my pc. Last time I secretly pulled out the power cord and told her it was broken, cause I got peed off with her kids getting on my pc and installing / downloading all manner of shit. The final straw came for me when I got my phone bill through, bked my kids and 'who the f* rang bloody Egypt?'. Guess what? After a power of deduction, it was my 'friend' who did it.

Does your friend actually contribute anything else to your relationship? Did she help out with cost of petrol or anything? Me thinks you have a 'toxic friend' there hun. Be careful. These types of people want to suck everything out of you and take advantage of people's kindness and goodwill.

HTH, keep us posted x x

Erm, is there some reason why she can't get a car herself??

If you do get another car, I think I would start making excuses as to why you can't give her a lift anywhere. Like get a 2 seater or something .

Thanks for the replies.

She doesn't really contribute anything...the only time she phones me is when she wants to moan about her sister in law.

She never contributed to petrol, her husband works and I'm a single parent so really I'm in no better situation to buying a car than she is apart from the fact that she can't drive...but I wasn't born with the ability! She says she can't pluck up the courage which I can sort of understand but then surely she shouldn't expect everyone around her to do it for her.

She slags off everyone around her, the people she gets lifts off, parents at school, her family....

She was over the moon last week because he sister in law recieved a £500 MOT bill...she loves to see people suffering but I pointed out to her that if her sister in law couldn't afford to pay it, wouldn't her lifts be out of the question? so she just gave me a "look" but she's so spiteful. She was telling me on friday that she can't wait until her 8 year old nephews birthday as something his mum thinks he is getting from her, he isnt...I said "aww he's only 8..." so she said "oh I know, its not him I want to upset, its her" (sil) but she doesn't realise that its the kid that suffers!

I would've thought that now you are in the same position (i.e. carless) you would be able to empathise with your friend more?

What is she supposed to do, insist that the people giving her a lift give you one too?

Maybe it's lots of hassle for her to visit you without getting a lift? Sounds to me like she wants to spend more time with you and doesn't hang out with her SIL because she likes it, but out of necessity.

I don't have a car and it's a BITCH getting around sometimes even though I live in a city. People with cars don't even realise how difficult it is to do some things outside the local bus routes.

not having a car doesn't give one a license to use people. she doesn't contribute to the relationship in any way, doesn't even offer petrol money...

she's horrid. dump her.

dizietsma - yes I do realise how difficult it is, I went for years without a car before I could drive, spent 3 years with the luxury (in which I suddenly became a couple of people's [best mate ) and now I'm without one again.

I know she can't insist that people give me a lift but surely after a year of being taxi'd around the last thing you do is boast spitefully to the person that used to help you when its clear they are now struggling just because you can find a lift off someone else?

And she only lives around the corner, she doesnt need a lift to get here but now that I can't take her anywhere she doesnt seem to want to come anymore.

What a nasty back-biting bitch! Is there any way at all you can start to avoid her now? When you do get a new car, please do not take this woman anywhere and if she calls round at any time, play it really cool with her, don't be friendly or really cold, just neutral and say you're just on your way out to visit someone. Who knows but this woman could be slagging you off behind your back too!

I think she is. She thinks its hilarious that I joined karate and chuckles to herself everytime I mention a job interview or my university so I'm sure she's taking the piss out of me behind my back.

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Waste of time, find some proper friends - am sure you have lots, just don't bother with her!

And she snipes about you behind your back?
No petrol money?
Takes the piss?

Get rid...

NOW!