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Ex girlfriend "well you aren't married yet -so can't be that in love"?

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idonothookup · 30/10/2022 08:21

Me and my ex split two years ago (I won't bore you with the details ) it was my first female relationship and was very intense.
It ended with me telling her how lonely she was going to end up with her ways ...oh how wrong was I.
She met someone and engaged after 10 months and they got married 6 months later.
Now I've been with someone now for 14 months and we are really happy,moved in together a month ago and have a good life together so far.
My ex has started working at my place
We got in a conversation
And she already knew about my relationship (mutual friends)
She responds "oh well clearly not that serious if you aren't married yet-look at me 17 months later and we are married-I'm sure you will find your happiness eventually

Wtf ..how can she base her timeline on anybody else's .
I wouldn't want to be married in less than 2 years because it wouldn't be right for me
Why say this ?

OP posts:

Hawkins001 · 30/10/2022 13:41

As mumsn shows even rings does not equal happy or faithful

Aprilx · 30/10/2022 14:01

idonothookup · 30/10/2022 09:40

She did something awful to me and all her ex's hence the you will end up lonely comment.
She's a narcissist /gas lighter etc
Promises all sorts then treats you like crap
That's the only reason I said that
My mum died and she was sleeping around and rubbing my nose in it

Well then why are you surprised? Keep your distance and don’t worry about it.

VyVyNot · 30/10/2022 14:01

FlakeySalt · 30/10/2022 08:34

Tit-for-tat.

You told her she’s never find someone else. She did and now she’s turning your own words back on you.

I don’t think what she said is any worse than what you said.

👆

Dery · 30/10/2022 14:28

“You ask "Why say this?"

But really the question should be, why have you taken any notice and why are you letting it get to you?

You know she's a prick, so move on and stop paying attention to her words.”

This, OP.

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