Advice

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My partner and I have been together 3 and a half years 3 kids (1 from previous relationship) and right now I'm really struggling with the relationship.
Every time we argue he calls me names can be so nasty threatens to throw me out ( gave up my rented home I lived in for 10 years to move into his bought home) and it really gets to me.
I am no angel for some reason I'm to blame
For starting argument and I can give as good back but I don't make personal insults.
When we are good we are great but when we are bad it's awful and makes me not want to be in this relationship, he buys most things we need for home and is good to
Me and the kids but I have to say I work part time and give him my fair share.

Anyway just looking for advice on if anyone else has a partner like this, how do u get the anger to stop. He's a lovely guy but when he sees red that's it. He's also going through a rough time at the minute with personal reason but I don't think that's any excuse to be nasty to someone you claim to love.
Thanks.

He's not a lovely guy at all.

This is an abusive relationship and you are in an extremely vulnerable position as your kids and you have further moved into his property. I assume you are not named on any official documents like a mortgage or title deeds relating to his property.

He has a problem with anger, YOUR anger, when you rightly call him out on his unreasonable behaviour. This is who he really is and its over because of the abuse he metes out to you. The kids likely hear all this too; sound after all travels.

What is the situation re your previous rental property; can you get this back?. It seems you cannot. At the very least now you're going to have to find another rental property without him in your day to day lives. This is no environment to bring up these children in and they are also being harmed by seeing you as their mum being abused.

I would call both Shelter and Womens Aid here for additional advice and support.

I am no angel for some reason I'm to blame For starting argument and I can give as good back but I don't make personal insults.

he sounds abusive but this entire relationship sounds an utter shit show for raising three children. It will damage them and their relationships as adults growing up like this.

The only advice you should be interested in is how to leave.