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Ex and I have been seperated a few months now, he has moved out to his mums. We have a son who has a room at his grans house.
Myself and son are still in marital home, with the intent of me buying ex out

Ex gets son straight from school and has him in marital home until I'm in from work at 5pm.
I felt this was best at the time as it meant son could still have friends round and go out to play with his friends as they are in our area. Grans is 10 mins away so not far

My issue now is that this is not working for me. There has been a couple of instances where ex has been disrespectful when in the house: I feel as though he's got me over a barrel as he's still contributing financially.

Am I being unreasonable to state that I no longer want him in the house for contact, and that he should take son to his house? Expecting backlash so please be kind

He should take DS to his mum’s house, less confusing for everyone. It’s still his house though so you’re in a tricky spot trying to ban him from being in it. When’s he buying you out and how quickly are you taking over all the costs of running it? I’d go at changing the pattern from the POV of what’s best and least confusing for DS, if it was your idea then admit it wasn’t helpful and now needs to change.

@AnneLovesGilbert I'm not sure how long it will take tbh, I'm instructing my solicitor on Monday. He doesn't want to involve solicited etc so will probably drag his heels with financial disclosures etc

@AnneLovesGilbert it's me buying him out,
I can take over the running of things once maintenance is established etc. there's been a brief chat about it, but not much as he's still paying his share of bills

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