DH's big birthday

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DH's big birthday coming up.

I don't really have an awful lot of money to spend as I'm low income.

My questions are :

1. Should I arrange a surprise ? (Don't know what it would be yet - party/weekend away etc).
2. Present ideas? Again due to not having much to spend I should ask him if he'd like anything or should it be a surprise? (Ideas please).

He keeps dropping hints that I need to be arranging something but I'm struggling with ideas & cash.

Help!

My brother in law had a big birthday this week. My sister booked her family in for a meal at a restaurant that had a pianist. She invited friends and family and asked them to book themselves in if they wanted to come. Each group ordered and paid for themselves. In the end there were 19 people and the restaurant put tables together/nearby. Sister brought a cake which waiters brought in and cut up. Whole restaurant sang Happy Birthday and also sang along to the pianist who chose some great songs to play. A happy atmosphere and great night but not too much cost. Highly recommend!

Thank you. @Fushia123

My DH 40th coming up. I've booked the upstairs of a pub for a surprise party - no cost aside from decorations

Does he know you're struggling for cash? Why are you struggling for cash?

Don't you share money? I'd use joint money for gifts and parties.

How much effort does he make for your birthday??

Does he know you're struggling for money? Is he? If not, why is he allowing you to struggle?

Dropping hints that 'you need to be arranging something' would earn him a swift kick up the arse from me. 🤔

Me too.

It’s confusing. You’ve got separate finances, you’re skint and he doesn’t realise hence the hints? How skint? I’d just ask what he’s hoping for and talk about what the two of you can afford.