I need an unbiased view - instagram messages

[platedate]

I am extremely anxious and just kinda beating myself up, so please go gentle on me.

If you were sent a screenshot from person A of their Instagram messages with person B, but person B had unsent everything (you can do that on Instagram), therefore it just looks like person A is talking to themselves, would it be worth the hassle or would they just look silly?

I engaged in sexting with someone, and am now regretting it. Both single, but the person in mind is a "lad's lad". The day after, I just got immense ick, regretted it and essentially removed all trace of my messages so it looks like he's talking to himself. I was so concerned he'd maybe send it to his friends, in a group chat or whatever (had this done to me by an ex), and I am an extremely private person so it just unnerves me.

I'd love a view from someone not involved, as my emotions are clouding this for me! We haven't spoke since, I just quietly unsent everything and removed him.

Well, I've woken up today and discovered he's blocked me. I unsent everything around a few weeks ago and just been blocked today/last night (I didn't message again).

Trying not to take it to heart.

He's a complete wanker you're better off without. Sounds like a simp too. In the bin with this one! Hope you manage to have a decent weekend.

@ImJustMadAboutSaffron ahhh I hope so! This is why I was trying to figure out if unsending the messages was the correct action. I feel like a weirdo now.

OP - just get on with your life and stop giving this so much of your headspace.

You sexted with someone you knew online, weeks ago. Then removed the texts and didn’t speak to him again.

Didn’t explain anything, didn’t say you felt bad.

He now has blocked you. Not sure why you have anything to ‘take to heart’ or not.

He didn’t force you to do anything, not in the way you have described the occasion. Who knows if this is in his character or not. You know very little about him.

What do you think he thought after you deleted messages and ghosted him?

MMmomDD · Today 11:10
OP - just get on with your life and stop giving this so much of your headspace.

This.
I don’t agree with pp comment he’s a sex pest. I assume you engaged with him willingly, you weren’t coerced so it’s not all his fault. You shouldn’t be embarrassed of your sexuality at all , nothing wrong with sexting at all,but if feeling worried and embarrassed is the end result I would probably knock it on the head .

@MMmomDD I reached out to him after the sexting which he kept making excuses he was busy which was very obvious he was disinterested. I don't mean to make him sound like he forced me into anything, that wasn't my intention.

I honestly don't know what his thoughts would be.

@platedate

Thst part was unclear as you did say you haven’t spoken to him after deleting messages.
But regardless - what do you want from him? You don’t have a real life relationship and don’t see each other.
This was a one time incident. He clearly didn’t really know what was happening in your head - with your deleting of messages.
So - let it go?

OP, it 100% wouldn't be worth doing. It sounds like you've had a random thought and then created an anxiety loop around it (I've done it, I understand!) but the reality is, he's extremely unlikely to do anything like that. He has no reason to.

Best thing you can do is try and put it out of your mind and if I were you, save things like that for relationships you know (and trust) IRL.

Thank you @ilovearainyday, this is exactly what I've done! I don't want anything from him, I just regret partaking in it and I don't want him to have any proof I did. That's all!

Anyone could fake messages from anyone of they really wanted to be spiteful, but I highly highly doubt that's what his intentions are. It's not even worth thinking about. As for him blocking you, who cares, you deleted all of your messages, stopped contacting him and started this thread because you weren't sure of his intentions... you're better off without him! Some people block and delete, some people just delete the contact details, some people do nothing. I was a blocker, if it was over I'd block and move on. Meant I didn't need to deal with any random drunken messages weeks or months down the line. And I wasn't able to randomly drunk message then either! Was a win for everyone!

Don't feel guilty or dirty for sending a few sexy messages tho, nothing wrong with it if you consented to doing it at the time!

Thank you - I suppose you're right! I'm really overthinking this. I've never been blocked in any capacity so it's hard to not take it personal.

You can delete messages for both sides on WhatsApp. There's the option to delete just for you or to delete for everyone