My other half reads out posts on forums like these with the topic like "my girlfriends posts selfies online". The comments read to me are like "she's insecure and needs alot of attention", "she's not your girl but everyones" etc.
I feel it would be better to lay out all the details before taking on others peoples opinions for both our sake.
I have two social media accounts across most platforms. One personal account which is private and and contains content of my partner and our family.
The second account is my art, business account. I've told my partner that I would like to start showing my face more across social media and in general, such as I am attending events. I have heard that it's good to let everyone see you as the artist and make yourself known as well as your art. You the artist are the brand and your work is your product. I would like some good looking photos of myself with my art the same way that a music producers/singers would promote themselves with pictures. I have explained to my partner that I don't want to show skin etc.
My partner feels that this is a form of making myself look available and approachable by men online. I understand he feels why men may approach me, however I am happy to post my partner to my business account so people can see I'm in a relationship and dismiss anyone straight away that may message inappropriately.
This is my passion and I really feel like getting myself known could help my art business grow. But I have told him that if he feels that uncomfortable about it then I won't do it because his feelings are more important to me.... he said no do what you want and then deleted all his social media saying he can't watch me doing it. Now I feel guilty.
There are other things he has mentioned. Such as female having male friends. Now I don't have male friends in the sense of going for coffee or meeting up with anyone, but I do communicate with people.
For exampme:
Someone I've known a long time sent me a post online promoting his music event. Not spoken to this person in years prior to this. I asked him to share my art event as he knows many people. He has offered his Djing for the event. My partner is not comfortable me talking to him as he thinks the only reason he's been nice is because he wants me. Spreading love and kindness is a very important thing to me so I feel that other people could feel this way too and not everyone has a motive behind their nice actions. Or... he's offered his Djing at my event as this would promote himself in some way too.
As i say i do not meet up with any men or take friendships past the normal chit chat here and there. Im not sure i would even call them friends, more like we live in a community and communicate with eachother and are all friendly in a sense. I feel that people should be allowed friends of the opposite sex for as long as there are boundaries. And if any man was to speak to me like anything other than how my brother would, he is not a friend and I would not be happy speaking to anyone compromising my relationship.
My partner feels that by having communication with any man is giving them the opportunity to try it on with me.
The way my partner has been speaking, I can see this really affects him and I am trying my best to communicate to try to resolve our different opinions.
I feel like there is a thin line between being territorial and being possessive.