NC relative harassing me

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Does anyone have an unstable relative they are NC with who won’t accept it? And yes I’ve posted about this relative before, she has just turned up at my house in the middle of the night screaming through my front door! I haven’t spoken to her at all in 2 YEARS. I know people will say call the
police but she will retaliate so what do I do in that case? Has anyone ever dealt with this?

Call the police, and if a retaliation occurs then you call them again. You might be able to get a non mol order, panic buttons installed etc to summon help quickly in future. But right now? Call the police.

Police. She retaliates then police again. And again. And again.

She either stops or she gets arrested and dealt with officially. If she's on drugs/alcohol then they might be able to show her how to access help.

She has a drink problem. The thing with the retaliation is we are not in contact as she called social services on me (maliciously) and pretended it was someone else. It later came out it was her, so if I call the police she’s likely to do this again. I think she knows this is whats stopping me so is using that to her advantage. She claimed she seen me in the park earlier with my kids but it was really dark so I’m not sure how she would have seen us.

I wouldn’t call the police for this. Unless you can actually prove she did it. Can you have a doorbell with camera installed? Then you will have proof.

I don’t have one, I’ve just been looking at them now.

Do not give this disordered woman any more power by not reporting her to the police for harassment. If a person unknown to you had done this you would have reported them anyway. I would additionally inform them about the previous malicious based report to Social Services. Let the authorities deal with her now.

You have not done anything and she’s further upped the power and control ante by now going to your home. If you do not do anything from this she will see that as a green light to continue. Social services took no action against you before because they received a malicious report from her so do not give your disordered relative any more power and control.

If SS see no grounds for concern in your home then you’ve nothing to worry about. Tell the police she made a malicious report to them, you can even contact them and say something like I have had to call the police to remove xxx from my property as she was causing a breach of the peace ( or shouting, swearing, whatever she was doing) She may well make another malicious report to you. While I know this is a waste of your resources I appreciate you will have to investigate so feel free to contact me in xxxx. You’re taking power away from her by doing this.
Ring doorbell or similar, call police anytime she harasses you so it’s on record.

She uses my autistic child against me she told ss my child doesn’t speak at all and stays up late at night. She didn’t mention that my child is autistic and at the time was non verbal and had sleep issues which we was waiting for melatonin for but that could only be prescribed by the paediatrician which had a waiting list. So ss came believing everything that was said and I was pregnant at the time so it was a very stressful situation the case was closed but it was horrible as they contact the school, drs, hv etc will the police also not want proof she is harassing me? She seen me at the park yesterday on my own with my children so that has “provoked her” she came round to mock me for being at the park on my own, she feels sorry for me apparently?!

Social services took no action against you last time because there was no case to answer.

Would suggest you contact the Police here anyway and get their advice. This relative of yours will keep on at you and has now come to your house, she could well further escalate. You need to take action now.

Just call the police the next time she shouts outside your door. I assume its loud enough for the neighbours to hear and at the very least look out their windows. They would be able to confirm it was your relative (based on age, height, description). However a ring doorbell recording it all would be 100% better.

Don't worry about SS, they are already aware and if she makes another report you might actually have another agency supporting you against her if the harassment came before the courts.

I have an unstable relative (it's an in-law) who sends me hate mail and vile emails. In the UK it would be prosecutable but she is overseas. I've ignored and blocked but she has clearly been putting my contact details on every spam and mug list she can find. My email is now choked on a daily basis with crap (some very offensive) and in reality there's nothing I can do about it.

If she were in the UK I wouldn't have hesitated to get the police involved.