Why are all other men so disappointing

[Honeymonste]

a few months back I split up with my boyfriend. Due to circumstances he had to move very far away for work. I’ve never had a breakup that is no one else’s fault.

We remain friendly enough but we both agreed we would move on clean break. It’s so weird because I don’t feel jealous that he could potentially be with another woman but I do know I miss him hugely.

Anyway, I have tried to get back out there and all men just seem so yuck? I can’t explain it but none of them feel right for me, I know they don’t have to be the one and to have fun. But am I still in love, or was he the right fit for me? He had my sense of humour, we laughed about silly things, we would tell each other everything, the man I’m talking to now, I’ve really tried to give him a chance but he said one cheesy thing and he now gives me the ick about everything. What do I even do, am I going to be alone forever

They seem yuck because the vast majority of men these days are yuck.

I've given up on dating. All I've met are guys either obsessed with sex, obsessed with talking about just themselves or a combination of both.

Keep chipping away and you may find a gem. It really isn't you though op, it's them!

I honestly don’t have the energy to even look. I thought perhaps I could find someone to get along with but all I can say is yuck.

Because your still missing him.

You may have agreed to a clean split but you're probably still grieving the relationship that ended.

A couple of dad's friends (male) have also given up on dating, saying much the same about the women. They're just getting on with living their lives. Similarly we have some bachelor friends who gave up dating ages ago. Having a partner isn't compulsory.

Not dads but dd's

Yep. I'm sure it's only them 😂😂😂

Glad it’s not just me! I find them all pretty repulsive and no where near one that I’d want to officially date

I think the best advice anyone could give you is - just live your life. Don't fixate on a meeting a man. If you're searching - OLD etc - there only seems to be scrags. Have fun, and meet lots of lovely people.

you just need to keep going. I had split up from someone a few years back on friendly terms - in fact he is a really good friend now.

met the guys you talk about. Loads obsessed with sex. Finally meet guy I have been dating for 8 months. He is ace.

its souls destroying, but I just kept with it. Some of it was I still I had the make company without the relationship with my ex. I just didn’t give guys a chance. Other was there were poor choices. But kept swiping and dating and met my guy

A watched pot never boils, take a step back from trying to find a replacement. Find yourself again, and don't rush into wanting a relationship out of loneliness. The next one should always be better for you than the last, so keep your standards high.

Maybe he was actually the right one for you. Could you not keep it going long distance?

I think it’s fairly obvious why.

I should take some time off from dating: concentrate on your career and interests and friends and family for 6 months or so.

Please dont Group all men together in this.

Give yourself a break, be single , do new things.
Go out with friends, meet real people, talk to more people at work, just open yourself up in real life and maybe give online dating a miss.

Genuinely believe people have better luck finding a partner IRL rather than on OLD. I'm ready to be told I'm living in the dark ages

It takes time to feel comfortable being with someone else after a relationship so it might be too soon.

Also, how long were you together and why couldn’t you try a long distance relationship? How far away is he? How long is he there for and would you moving he a possibility?

Tell him. He may feel the same

Thank you for this!

I thought I was loosing it, the quality of men is so fucking poor - men should be embarrassed.

Perhaps you are meeting the wrong men.There are some nice ones out there.

I spent about 3 years on and off the apps and my overall observation is the following: many men on there seem unhinged that can vary from being angry, bitter, spiteful, sex obsessed, and even dangerous. I've met a few who were nice.

If you're looking to find someone to build a life with this could be quite an elusive project: many seem to be jaded, broken and cynical following their own disappointments in life especially if they've "been there and done that" so are now divorced, have had their children and are looking for "fun". Yes, of course you may come across a gem but like in real life finding someone you get on with is pot luck.