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Online status - dating apps

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vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:09

Hi, hopefully a quick question...does the green dot "currently online" mean that the user is just online generally or specifically on that website/app?
Thanks

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Watchkeys · 27/10/2022 16:16

If you're suspicious of somebody to this extent at the dating app stage, just avoid them. A healthy relationship isn't founded on having a good knowledge of what a green dot means. It's founded on feeling you can ask the person anything, right from the start, and get a response you're happy with.

vanillacupcakex · 27/10/2022 16:18

Agree with @Watchkeys - but generally, yes it means they're online currently like most messaging/social media apps that show the same green dot.

heartbroken40 · 27/10/2022 16:21

Yep online on that app/website. The more confident you are about yourself the less they will mess you about. If he's still checking his dating app, then you do the same and chat to others too.

vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:22

Hmmm ok thanks
This is my Bf of 4 months. I signed up to a specific dating app to see if he is using it. We had a discussion about it last night and he said he would stop "browsing" them.
He is "currently active" green dot on the site. 🙁

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vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:22

We met in real life not online

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vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:23

I'm not on any dating apps....well I'm now on one!

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vanillacupcakex · 27/10/2022 16:25

vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:22

Hmmm ok thanks
This is my Bf of 4 months. I signed up to a specific dating app to see if he is using it. We had a discussion about it last night and he said he would stop "browsing" them.
He is "currently active" green dot on the site. 🙁

My friend had this exact same incident with her ex partner (ex because of this) - he came up on another friend's dating app who sent it to my friend, I think it was Tinder - he made up excuses he hadn't been on it in months and that's why. I don't think Tinder shows anyone who hasn't been active in the last while, it sends you an e-mail to say they're going to be making your account go ghost as you've not been active. I'm really sorry!

vanillacupcakex · 27/10/2022 16:27

Just googled - Tinder doesn't show anyone who hasn't been active in the last 7 days.

vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:29

This is Sugardaddie website 🤢

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vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 16:38

Clutching at straws here....could the currently online status mean that he has been on the site recently (within 7 days) or does it mean he is on there right now at this moment?
Just trying to get my facts straight before I confront him!

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vanillacupcakex · 27/10/2022 16:42

@vanillasunshine If the website is SA (you can fill in the gaps) it should have a Last Active section on their profile from what I'm googling which will tell you whether they're online/when they last were, but even if it has been 7 days, why do you want to be with someone who's "just browsing"? That's not appropriate behaviour from a taken man!

vanillasunshine · 27/10/2022 17:48

I know vanillacupcakex
We are meeting to chat about it this evening....the outcome is uncertain at this point

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Watchkeys · 27/10/2022 18:52

I signed up to a specific dating app to see if he is using it

Do you really see any kind of future in a relationship that starts with this sort of behaviour within the first few months? You don't trust him. You're spying on him. Where exactly do you see this going? If he's on the app, do you expect him to stop for you? If he tells you he's not on the app, will you believe him?

Honestly, if you're having to 'confront' someone about their potentially duplicitous behaviour, and feel you need to get your facts straight first, you've passed a vital STOP sign already, which is that something stops you sitting down and having a chat with them about it. And if you can't sit and have a chat with someone without making sure you've got your facts straight first, you're not actually in a relationship with them, because you're not relating to each other: you are opposed.

minticecreamisjustok · 27/10/2022 21:41

Surely it's over soon as he admitted to browsing and not only is he looking elsewhere, he's looking to buy someone. I bother with the meet up and ditch and celebrate being free from him.

minticecreamisjustok · 27/10/2022 21:42

don't bother

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