Upcoming holiday with partner but not 100%

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I'm due to go on holiday with my DP. It'll be our first holiday together. When we booked it we were loved up, but in recent weeks I no longer feel the same. He hasn't done anything unkind or cheated or anything like that.

Unfortunately due to the type of booking we will lose money if we cancel plus I am very much looking forward to seeing the destination we've picked. I'm thinking the holiday can be a week to see if I do want to end the relationship for sure. Has anyone been in this situation before? It feels too cruel to end it before as they are very excited and wouldn't be able to arrange for someone else to go with them and would want to still go on their own.

If you want to go, go. It will certainly help you to decide either way if you can see a future with him or not. How long have you been together?

Thanks for your reply. It's been a few months together.

Bumping

I would go. Enjoy the holiday and then decide about the future of the relationship when you get back. If you are at least friends then it's not worth losing all the money you have spent.

Personally I'd cancel. I'd rather lose the money than spend a week pretending to like someone. I'm not that good of an actress!

I would go. See it as a make or break opportunity.

Go & relax.
Use the time to make your decision.
Don’t be mean to him because he probably doesn’t deserve to have his memory marred, Just go with the flow, and enjoy yourself. It’ll probably be good fun if you get into the spirit of it.
Happy landings.

I went away with a (now ex) boyfriend of a few months and the writing was very much on the wall when we went (in fact we didn't see each other after getting home) but we had an amazing time & it is still one of the best
holidays I’ve ever had!

The destination helped as it was somewhere we both really wanted to go, so I say go for it! No point in losing your money & the worst that happens is it cements the thought that he’s not for you!

A friend of mine did similar. They both remember it as one of their best holidays but they split up on the return journey. They both knew it was on the cards.

Go, relax and if it's not to be break up a week or so after you get back, no point loosing money if there's nothing dramatically wrong