Emotional abuse

[whitneyh]

Best resources to send to my friend who is being emotionally abused by his partner but refuses to see it?

thanks!

There's a book by Lundy Bancroft called Why does he do that ?

Was about to say same thing! That book is a lifesaver

Why what's she/he doing ?

Reading up on narcissism can be quite enlightening, for pointing out puposeful selfish behaviour.
Dr Ramani is easy to watch on u tube.

Freedom Program

Has he asked for your help in managing his life?

There's little point trying to convince somebody that their partner is abusive if they haven't worked it out for themselves. Unsolicited 'help' and 'support' may well turn him away from you. Be there for him. Encourage him to talk about his feelings, and how his relationship makes him feel. Make sure he knows you're there. That's all you can do. Thrusting 'Abusive Relationship' books under his nose will just make him think you're trying to convince him that his beloved partner is a bit shit. Nobody welcomes that, even those with partners who have regular 'off days', 'bad moods', and are often 'a bit mean'.

He is being financially abused beyond other emotional stuff, so no he hasn’t asked for help, but it has been many months now and it is now urgent to try and work out how to get through to him, as he is set to lose 1000s of pounds and potentially his house. I won’t share more details as is his story not mine. But I and his family need to find a way to get through to him.